The Birds and the Bees

[westmom]

My dd is in Sec 1. She is still kinda "immatured" compared to her peers…still quite small, childish and "kiddy". Not interested in boys at all. She has no sign of puberty development yet. I have explained to her about the birds and bees while when she was in P6. She is aware on the surface what it mean by "sex". Yesterday, she came back and told me that her friends mentioned about "69" and someother naughty stuff. Her classmate teased her about her purity and sort of explain to her what is 69. I really don’t know what they told her cos she said she is still not clear except that she found it disgusting. I was kinda taken back…cos she asked me to explain further… I went like errr…err…What am I to do? In what manner and to what extent shall i cover…anyone in Notticorner can help??..

[tankee]

First, I think this should goes to \"working with your child\" than here in \"Notti\" as there is nothing wrong, dirty or notti about sex education.


Second, I believe the best approach to sex education is to be direct and explain as it is. There is nothing shameful about sex and we should not be embrassed by it.

[westmom]

…i have already explained to her about sex. It’s the details about the position "69" and why it should involve that ? At this age, should they be told about different kind of foreplay for further sex enjoyment? This not notti enuf to be posted in the 'notti"…?

[tankee]

Just explain it factually what Oral Sex is and 69 being a position for Oral Sex.


It is better than she gets the correct version from you than to get the tinted version from her friends or internet.

[leesf]

I don’t seem to find any similar topics on the discussion forum. Can someone share how do you introduce the topic to a 12 year old boy as a mother? Thanks!

[daisyt]

leesf:

I don't seem to find any similar topics on the discussion forum. Can someone share how do you introduce the topic to a 12 year old boy as a mother? Thanks!

Hi leesf, is your son closer to your husband or you? I personally feel that its better for father to explain to son about this topic and mother to daughter. However, if the relationship is close enough and the child don't feel uncomfortable, its not a problem for a mother to explain to son.

Is your son, matured enough in thinking? When talk about this topic, its better to be open, serious and don't feel shy. Once you feel a little uncomfortable, the child would sense it and he/she would feel shy too. First, find out how much he knows first. Ask what the school has taught them so far (I think in P5, MOE sent some staffs to the school to talk about puberty). In Science lesson, what has the school taught them. Did his other classmates discuss about this issue in school? What he think about BGR and crushes? You might even want to share with him your experiences of crushes when you were teenage time.

JMHO, hope this helps.

[MoonFlower]

My ds just came home with the sexual edu form for parents to sign. There are like 2 portions, P5 covered some topics and p6 some topics. Parents can choose to opt out not totallyr or only some topics.

[tankee]

there is a similar discussion thread here


http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=793

[leesf]

When I asked my husband if he had talked to our son regarding the topic on sex, he asked me how?? In fact I had opted for my son to attend the sexual education in school. They did learn about sexual reproduction in P5 Science but my concern is subjects other than sexual reprodcution like masturbation. I did talk to my son briefly on the topic of sex but I find it difficult to touch on this term, especially for boys whom I think they are more prone to have this habit. Anyone care to share?


Thanks

[daisyt]

leesf:

When I asked my husband if he had talked to our son regarding the topic on sex, he asked me how?? In fact I had opted for my son to attend the sexual education in school. They did learn about sexual reproduction in P5 Science but my concern is subjects other than sexual reprodcution like masturbation. I did talk to my son briefly on the topic of sex but I find it difficult to touch on this term, especially for boys whom I think they are more prone to have this habit. Anyone care to share?


Thanks

At P5, is it too young to talk about masturbation? I don't know ... it really depends on how mature your son thinking is and so far, what has he heard about from his friends on this type of issue. To my surprise, certain things these kids discuss among themselves, are wrong. For eg. they said swimming in public pool can have the risk of getting pregnant. They might not even know, which is the exact \"place\" sperms enter to get pregnant and exact \"place\" babies come out, even after the P5 Science topic and sexual education given. :shock:

I personally feel, don't purposely start the topic. Make use of some things that happen in daily life or news read or see from the newspaper ... and start talking. Then slowly find out, how much he knows from his friends and carry on.