The Birds and the Bees

[daisyt]

leesf:

I don't seem to find any similar topics on the discussion forum. Can someone share how do you introduce the topic to a 12 year old boy as a mother? Thanks!

Hi leesf, is your son closer to your husband or you? I personally feel that its better for father to explain to son about this topic and mother to daughter. However, if the relationship is close enough and the child don't feel uncomfortable, its not a problem for a mother to explain to son.

Is your son, matured enough in thinking? When talk about this topic, its better to be open, serious and don't feel shy. Once you feel a little uncomfortable, the child would sense it and he/she would feel shy too. First, find out how much he knows first. Ask what the school has taught them so far (I think in P5, MOE sent some staffs to the school to talk about puberty). In Science lesson, what has the school taught them. Did his other classmates discuss about this issue in school? What he think about BGR and crushes? You might even want to share with him your experiences of crushes when you were teenage time.

JMHO, hope this helps.

[MoonFlower]

My ds just came home with the sexual edu form for parents to sign. There are like 2 portions, P5 covered some topics and p6 some topics. Parents can choose to opt out not totallyr or only some topics.

[tankee]

there is a similar discussion thread here


http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=793

[leesf]

When I asked my husband if he had talked to our son regarding the topic on sex, he asked me how?? In fact I had opted for my son to attend the sexual education in school. They did learn about sexual reproduction in P5 Science but my concern is subjects other than sexual reprodcution like masturbation. I did talk to my son briefly on the topic of sex but I find it difficult to touch on this term, especially for boys whom I think they are more prone to have this habit. Anyone care to share?


Thanks

[daisyt]

leesf:

When I asked my husband if he had talked to our son regarding the topic on sex, he asked me how?? In fact I had opted for my son to attend the sexual education in school. They did learn about sexual reproduction in P5 Science but my concern is subjects other than sexual reprodcution like masturbation. I did talk to my son briefly on the topic of sex but I find it difficult to touch on this term, especially for boys whom I think they are more prone to have this habit. Anyone care to share?


Thanks

At P5, is it too young to talk about masturbation? I don't know ... it really depends on how mature your son thinking is and so far, what has he heard about from his friends on this type of issue. To my surprise, certain things these kids discuss among themselves, are wrong. For eg. they said swimming in public pool can have the risk of getting pregnant. They might not even know, which is the exact \"place\" sperms enter to get pregnant and exact \"place\" babies come out, even after the P5 Science topic and sexual education given. :shock:

I personally feel, don't purposely start the topic. Make use of some things that happen in daily life or news read or see from the newspaper ... and start talking. Then slowly find out, how much he knows from his friends and carry on.

[vividlaurel]

Hi,


I read with interest the topic on how not to let your daughter date at a young age and was stuck with this thought.

How do you teach about the birds and the bees to young children. I have b/g twins who are in P2 this year. Although they each have a room, they prefer to sleep together, mostly because my DS is scared of the dark and does not like to sleep alone.

They are getting older and I’m probably late already in teaching them about this topic and about their bodies.

I’d love to hear from others here how they managed it - any tips and pointers on how to start this topic and go further will be very appreciated…

[Oppsgal]

Can we just buy a book on the body parts and give to child to read? How old to start teaching on this? Should we start talking on this topic as young as 2year old?


Don’t know how to talk on such things… maybe just ask hubby to talk on this…

[Chenonceau]

Oppsgal:

Can we just buy a book on the body parts and give to child to read? How old to start teaching on this? Should we start talking on this topic as young as 2year old?


Don't know how to talk on such things... maybe just ask hubby to talk on this...

I did it this way... http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2010/12/sex-education.html

[BeContented]

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Just when do boys start having wet dreams? Alamak, my P5 son pulled me to a corner just now and told me that recently he had been sleeping through the night covered with blankets and no dreams....but his pants are wet when he wakes up....he's embarrassed....

[KoalaMummy]

cwc:

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Just when do boys start having wet dreams? Alamak, my P5 son pulled me to a corner just now and told me that recently he had been sleeping through the night covered with blankets and no dreams....but his pants are wet when he wakes up....he's embarrassed....

My p5 ds also told me he had wet dreams sometime last week. He said it in a matter-of-factly. We asked him if he had any dream and he said he can't remember. He told me his teacher has taught him that. I think it should around these age that they have wet dreams.