If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?

[jenniferjoey]

Hi Winth,


My body should be belong to the 'cold' type. My mum put me on a confinement diet after miscarriage, so that I can conceive again. I went thru a major 'Herbal' course... very 'hot' mum now. Gynae said its a unhealthy fetus and aborted by itself, well God may not want me to look after an unhealthy child.

Not easy to get pregnant, every single life counts... Every good friends I know around my age are pregnant... But I extremely happy for them.

[tanlengleng]

Jia You Everyone.

[jedamum]

winth:

Initially I thought that my 2nd boy is ADHD becos he is just so stubborn and 'hyper', he just doesn't sleep and is always doing things. He gets really frustrated when it's not done properly... Imagine the kind of stress and energy to watch over him...

My 2nd boy is just as active...as of now, he is standing at the edge of the sofa watching TV backside have pins. ask him to come, he'll go a detour and climb obstacles (a parked car/stool) before coming to me. bedtime is an hour...he'll walk round and round the bedroom (risking stepping on his bro) until he exhaust all ounce of energy then he'll lie down and sleep.

I refuse to believe his has ADHD leh. He's just being active.

We are definitely stopping at 2. I just had a long nap (drift in and out of consciousness actually) just now. The elder bro fed the younger one lunch, poured him juice, read to him, play with him while i napped. It is a far cry from 2 years ago when the elder one kept pestering me to accompany him to play - now he has a dedicated playmate and fan. It's no wonder he resist having another sibling...he said will make me and him busy.

[jedamum]

sashimi:

it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.

Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah....

[schellen]

jedamum:

sashimi:

it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.

Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah....

Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life.

[jedamum]

schellen:

Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life.

Quite true...i struggled for a while (i AM a workaholic!) before deciding that being SAHM is the best option for having a second kid.

[winth]

Hi schellen,


Agree with jedamum. I would think that 1 child is far too little. From your posts and sashimi's, both are good parents, genuinely concerned for your children's well-being. How can things go too wrong when you guys are here to work things out?

It's Friday night. :love:

[schellen]

winth:

Hi schellen,


Agree with jedamum. I would think that 1 child is far too little. From your posts and sashimi's, both are good parents, genuinely concerned for your children's well-being. How can things go too wrong when you guys are here to work things out?

It's Friday night. :love:

So basically, as the Chinese say, \"When the ship comes to the bridge head, it will naturally become straight\"? (Alamak, Chief infected me! :?: )

[ChiefKiasu]

schellen:

...So basically, as the Chinese say, \"When the ship comes to the bridge head, it will naturally become straight\"? (Alamak, Chief infected me! :?: )

:? Ah... you are making the point that my direct translation of obscure Chinese phrases to English is below normal standards, yes? For a moment, I thought I passed you the brain-flu or something.

[cmm]

schellen:

jedamum:

[quote=\"sashimi\"] it's just that there is simply no assurance that our children can have a decent life in this world. It's all I can do to keep this single one safe and happy.

Hm...my take is, if you make the cut as a good parent, why deprive another child of your good genes and the upbringing environment? One is too little ah....

Sigh...if really have another one, dunno how cos I won't have chance to be SAHM again and I'll feel like I'm depriving second one of what I gave first one. I'll be guilty my whole life. :([/quote]I used to have the same thoughts as you...

But don't you think rather deprive the second one of what you gave first one than deprive him of a chance at life, yes?

JMHO.