Any Mommies in mid-late 30s with teenages

[mrswongtuition]

When I'm 35, my son will be 13.

[24by7mum]

Well, my child is 16 and i am 40! I am waiting to enjoy once uni starts! :))

[daisyt]

Wow! Just spoted one young mummy, 20 yo with a 2 yo dd. Welcome!

[jeanietham90]

hiya!!


I'm a 20yr old mum, got married at 17, gave birth when I just turned 18! Yup, my baby gal wasn't planned but it doesn't matter anyway, as long as we were ready to take up this responsibility for the rest of our lives

I'm happily married to my hubby who just got enlisted into army a month ago, I'm working right now to support my baby gal.

I got pregnant when I was in my year 2 of diploma.. but anyhoos, I brought my big tummy to school everyday, gave birth during the holidays and when I was 3 weeks into my confinement, I went back to school again. Just when my daughter turned 5 months old, I flew to China for 5 months to study. It was one hell of a time over there on my own with my family still in SG.. and what's worse was that when I came back, my daughter doesn't recognize me! I stayed home for 2 months (holiday) to be a SAHM, to bond again with my daughter...

Of course, when I came back, I had a lot of problems with my MIL. She's the main caregiver, but she spoils my daughter so bad! Oh gosh.. one day my daughter refused to eat her dinner.. I was so pissed that I locked her up in the room with just her and me, and I was scolding her very badly. She just kept throwing tantrums (mind you, she was only 10mths old!!) kick me, beat me. I was so angry so she hit me once, i hit her back. She kick me, I beat her leg. Then I was screaming like a crazy woman. And my MIL rushed into the room and told me \"aiyo, don't scold her, you will scare her!\" OMG. I was so pissed with her that I screamed \"GET OUT!!!!!!!!\" And well, after 15 minutes of screaming, my daughter came out and guai guai sit down eat dinner on her own.

Now she still sticks to ah ma.. everything look for ah ma, except when she wants to go gai gai, then she'll search high and low for me.. I'm the disciplinarian at home, but being that really sucks too. When she does something wrong, I just give her a stare and she'll start crying -.- So sometimes when I just want to talk to her about her actions, I haven't even open my mouth liao she thinks I'm going to scold her already. Quite depressing on my side..

But I guess its usual for guys at this age (20 yr old) to still be dreaming around... I'm planning to send my daughter for flexi care curriculums but my hubby thinks should just let my daughter play till she's 4 yr old LOL... so oh well.. it's always the mummies making the decision huh...

Oh gosh, I just realised I ranted sooo much!

[daisyt]

Hi jeanietham90, how about sharing the other side of your story, your parent’s side, if you don’t mind. TIA

[jeanietham90]

My relationship with my mum has always been sour, I’m closer to my dad but he’s based overseas long term for work. However when I got pregnant, my mum was still the first person I turned to. She was really pissed when she knew about it, it took my parents a month before they settled down and realised that their granddaughter in me was way more important than them kicking up a big fuss about this whole pregnancy.


During that time, I was still schooling, had to deal with telling the parents, had to plan my wedding within 3 weekends, (I was already 5mths preggy when I found out!!), decide which gynae to go to and do whatever tests I had to do. At that time, my mum flew over to HK with my dad so everything was done by myself. (I think all hubbys all like that… leave everything to the women -.-")

My lecturers were impressed too, because I did a GPA of 2.36 (out of 4) before I got pregnant. When I got pregnant, I scored a GPA of at least 3.1 per semester, and I officially graduated with a GPA of 3.2 which to me was a great achievement, because I majored in something that didn’t have a politically right or wrong answer. I studied Chinese btw.

But I was really happy when my mum called me from HK just to ask me the gender of my baby then, because she was so excited and was already shopping for baby wear! That really warmed my heart up so much and I started to feel more appreciative of everything that I have.

I must say that at the age of 20, I feel very accomplished, with my family, with a career. But well, all these comes with a price… I’m going to do a double degree next year, so I’m just gonna have to work really really hard for the next few years… I’ll be applying for a flat next year (for the sake of maintaining a good r/s with my IL for the next 60 years probably), so I can’t stop!!

My baby gal is a real blessing, she was the one who got my family all back together again, made my life more meaningful and all the grandparents now can’t live without her! She makes soooo much noise at home that when there’s silence, we just feel awkward.

[daisyt]

jeanietham90, you sounds matured in thinking, hence you are able to cope with all these. You are a strong person.


I am curious, why you studied Chinese? And what are you going to take for the double degree and where? Part time or full time. What is the career path for studying Chinese? Are you Singaporean?

Pardon me if I ask too much. I am hoping to find out more about studying Chinese. :oops:

[jeanietham90]

I’m glad my parents brought me up to be a very independent person. My hubby on the other hand is more family-tied, very dependant on his parents… can’t imagine if I was like him… I probably would’ve aborted my baby gal.


Yup! I’m Singaporean! Made here, born here, hehe. I studied Chinese because I was really interested in the literature, in the history. So that was what I studied for the past 3 years, literature, lao zi, meng zi, li bai, du fu and all that super cheena stuffs. Funny though, because my family mainly communicates in english. When I just entered poly, I was the worst out of my whole cohort, they call me "yellow banana". Well, at least I proved them wrong at the end of my 3rd year!

I’ll be doing a part time degree most likely at SMa, majoring in HR & Business. Won’t be studying chinese anymore because after entering the workforce for a year, I realised that the only thing that I can do if I want to specialize in mandarin is to be a teacher, which is the last thing that I’d want to do… Otherwise, be a journalist, but tough because that sector is dominated with PRCs. (even my friends from Chinese Studies were 70% from China). Otherwise, we can go Kumon and be a tuition teacher…

But of course… I’d pass my all my chinese knowledge to my daughter, and I want her to love the Chinese language as much as I do. I communicate mostly in english with her though, haha!

[DesertWind]

Hi Jeanie,


Thanks for sharing, glad you have chosen to bring your baby into this world!
:celebrate:

jeanietham90:

My baby gal is a real blessing, she was the one who got my family all back together again, made my life more meaningful and all the grandparents now can't live without her! She makes soooo much noise at home that when there's silence, we just feel awkward.

[Cotton]

Hee! Hee!


I'm 34 and my girls are 10 & 7. Gave birth to my eldest at 24. Can I join? Please!!!