Any Mommies in mid-late 30s with teenages

[daisyt]

Hi jeanietham90, how about sharing the other side of your story, your parent’s side, if you don’t mind. TIA

[jeanietham90]

My relationship with my mum has always been sour, I’m closer to my dad but he’s based overseas long term for work. However when I got pregnant, my mum was still the first person I turned to. She was really pissed when she knew about it, it took my parents a month before they settled down and realised that their granddaughter in me was way more important than them kicking up a big fuss about this whole pregnancy.


During that time, I was still schooling, had to deal with telling the parents, had to plan my wedding within 3 weekends, (I was already 5mths preggy when I found out!!), decide which gynae to go to and do whatever tests I had to do. At that time, my mum flew over to HK with my dad so everything was done by myself. (I think all hubbys all like that… leave everything to the women -.-")

My lecturers were impressed too, because I did a GPA of 2.36 (out of 4) before I got pregnant. When I got pregnant, I scored a GPA of at least 3.1 per semester, and I officially graduated with a GPA of 3.2 which to me was a great achievement, because I majored in something that didn’t have a politically right or wrong answer. I studied Chinese btw.

But I was really happy when my mum called me from HK just to ask me the gender of my baby then, because she was so excited and was already shopping for baby wear! That really warmed my heart up so much and I started to feel more appreciative of everything that I have.

I must say that at the age of 20, I feel very accomplished, with my family, with a career. But well, all these comes with a price… I’m going to do a double degree next year, so I’m just gonna have to work really really hard for the next few years… I’ll be applying for a flat next year (for the sake of maintaining a good r/s with my IL for the next 60 years probably), so I can’t stop!!

My baby gal is a real blessing, she was the one who got my family all back together again, made my life more meaningful and all the grandparents now can’t live without her! She makes soooo much noise at home that when there’s silence, we just feel awkward.

[daisyt]

jeanietham90, you sounds matured in thinking, hence you are able to cope with all these. You are a strong person.


I am curious, why you studied Chinese? And what are you going to take for the double degree and where? Part time or full time. What is the career path for studying Chinese? Are you Singaporean?

Pardon me if I ask too much. I am hoping to find out more about studying Chinese. :oops:

[jeanietham90]

I’m glad my parents brought me up to be a very independent person. My hubby on the other hand is more family-tied, very dependant on his parents… can’t imagine if I was like him… I probably would’ve aborted my baby gal.


Yup! I’m Singaporean! Made here, born here, hehe. I studied Chinese because I was really interested in the literature, in the history. So that was what I studied for the past 3 years, literature, lao zi, meng zi, li bai, du fu and all that super cheena stuffs. Funny though, because my family mainly communicates in english. When I just entered poly, I was the worst out of my whole cohort, they call me "yellow banana". Well, at least I proved them wrong at the end of my 3rd year!

I’ll be doing a part time degree most likely at SMa, majoring in HR & Business. Won’t be studying chinese anymore because after entering the workforce for a year, I realised that the only thing that I can do if I want to specialize in mandarin is to be a teacher, which is the last thing that I’d want to do… Otherwise, be a journalist, but tough because that sector is dominated with PRCs. (even my friends from Chinese Studies were 70% from China). Otherwise, we can go Kumon and be a tuition teacher…

But of course… I’d pass my all my chinese knowledge to my daughter, and I want her to love the Chinese language as much as I do. I communicate mostly in english with her though, haha!

[DesertWind]

Hi Jeanie,


Thanks for sharing, glad you have chosen to bring your baby into this world!
:celebrate:

jeanietham90:

My baby gal is a real blessing, she was the one who got my family all back together again, made my life more meaningful and all the grandparents now can't live without her! She makes soooo much noise at home that when there's silence, we just feel awkward.

[Cotton]

Hee! Hee!


I'm 34 and my girls are 10 & 7. Gave birth to my eldest at 24. Can I join? Please!!!

[DesertWind]

Cotton:

Hee! Hee!


I'm 34 and my girls are 10 & 7. Gave birth to my eldest at 24. Can I join? Please!!!

Hi Hi!
Welcome! Another young mummy! Do share with us your experience why you marry and have kids so young!

:celebrate:

[Cotton]

Met my hubby at 19 then married at 23 lor! He is a businessman & I travelled with him all the time then both sides mummies felt tat we shld be tied down by de cert so ....!

I gave birth to my eldest gal the nxt year, She is healthy but tend to fall sick often during de 1st 3 years. I became a sahm to take care of her. It wasn't easy! I was still very young, to stay put at home can really kills me. In de 1st year, my hubby still has to travel often so most time i'm left alone with my baby. I did suffer from post natal then but managed to pull through with my mummies help. After 1 year of factory closed, i gave birth to my 2nd girl. Believe me! Without the help of maids, I took care of them myself alone and I believed u know tat when 1 fall sick, the other one follows. So for the 1st few years, it was a nightmare! Luckily, my hubby stops being a superman. He stays put to help out.
Many of my kakis asked how can I stay home to look after my kids & worse still, without a maid. But if u ask me now, I will make de same decision again. Bonding with my kids & hubby is very important in our family. We want our kids to be positive & cheerful plus our marriage life is still very blissful. Cos I always believe if the parents are happy so do de kids!
Now tat my jewels are in sch, I do have more free time to engage in my passion, japanese patchwork. In de mrning, i will go teach my students & in the noon, I will still be \"Maria\"! Ha!Ha!Ha! Tat's my story!

[DesertWind]

Hi Cotton,


Thanks for sharing! Wow, you sound like a really blissful \"ajuma\", \"maria\", whatever...ke...ke...ke...! I really admire you for devoting yourself to your family, both kids and hubby!

Japanese patchwork? Sounds interesting! I love all things Japanese and have a collection of kokeshi dolls on display at home.

What sort of Japanese patchwork may I ask?
:celebrate:

Cotton:

Many of my kakis asked how can I stay home to look after my kids & worse still, without a maid. But if u ask me now, I will make de same decision again. Bonding with my kids & hubby is very important in our family. We want our kids to be positive & cheerful plus our marriage life is still very blissful. Cos I always believe if the parents are happy so do de kids!
Now tat my jewels are in sch, I do have more free time to engage in my passion, japanese patchwork. In de mrning, i will go teach my students & in the noon, I will still be \"Maria\"! Ha!Ha!Ha! Tat's my story!

[Cotton]

My Dear, I do have my sobbing side! I can tell u I was disliked by my father-in-law and the rest. Dun't ask me why? I also dun know leh! Is it bcos i'm too pretty/! Ha!Ha!Ha! :evil: Guess it's bcos most of them went to work after giving birth & I'm the only 'idle' one! or they jealous my hubby spoilt me rotten?! Wahhaha!:siao: (Pls forgive me! I'm nuts!!!)


Oh, Jap patchwork! Most of my themes are sweet and romantic prints! Sometimes, i made it as a gift or I sold it away as well as a sample to show it to my students, then they will be tempted to learn & i will be rich!! Hee! Hee! I sew & quilt every single projects by hand. I got the fabrics, zippers, laces everything from Jap. I do make quilts, bags, pouches, ..... I made my children pillowcases, bedspread, blankets, bags, pencil cases... whatever they asked for! They will choose the fabrics then i made them! In this way, my kids learnt to match colours. This helps when they are painting.

My hubby always nag this is a luxury hobby! Cos all the things I used, I got it from Jap! But to me, the satisfaction is there whenever I finished de project.