whats the age gap between your kids?

[mowmow]

Of course I will be expecting more from my elder one, and a little less from my baby, because he is afterall about a year younger. But I have to thank my elder one, as he had taken the initiative to teach his brother how to read when they were still in kindergarten. My elder one picked up reading very early and he was patient enough to read the daily readers to his young brother every day before he learnt how to read independently.


And, lucky me, both my children are quite smart and they are able to deliver good results. But strangely, though my young one also made some careless mistakes in his papers, I tend to let him off more lightly, as to me, his results are already a "WOW" for a little baby (Bec he is almost the youngest in class and quite small build but is one of the top scorers in the class). And I like the confidence that he shows in himself.

I also did not feel that I had missed out anything during my baby’s baby days. As, hours outside working hours are fully dedicated to my 2 darlings (no need to cook or do any household chores). In fact it had really been a joy to have 2 boys growing up together and seeing how close they have become, and how caring they can be over each other.

[Luvkid]

Mine at 4 years gap. Little bro arrived before my elder boy turned 4.


It is within my plan. When elder boy was 2 plus to 3, found that he was LONELY, he need a playmate. Some might not agreed that \"is time to give a playmate to a child\", but i find nothing wrong about that. Especially, when elder boy was at that age, he was more matured then. Of cos when he was much younger at few months to 2yo, i dare not to think of it. Still remember, mil chased me for a 2nd one when elder boy was just few days old. :!: Taking care together will be easier Of cos, i dun agreed with too many years apart like 7 yo or older, :scared: need to start all over again!! and with the elder one at the new challenging Pr 1, then with another new born in hand to feed, to burp, to change diaper...... So i chose the middle out of it.

Well, this 2 boys have different character. The elder boy is more soft hearted, more flicker, easy to get influence; the younger one is more strong minded, stubborn and dun get influence easily. Still learning with them... :celebrate:

[tsh0202]

Mine: 1st and 2nd - 2 years apart

2nd and 3rd - 3 years apart
3rd and 4th - 1 year apart
4th and 5th - 2 years apart
5th and 6th - 2 years apart

It's a blessing! :love:

[Andaiz]

Wow TSH0202…6 - very hard to beat…and what blessings.


For mine,
#1 and #2 23 months
#2 and #3 19 months coz #3 was very kang cheong …and intense - came out at 35 weeks!

[H2O]

For me,


1st and 2nd 2 years apart
2nd and 3rd 5 years apart.

3rd is really an accident. It is a surprised gift from God.

[TimmyOwner]

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Hi

Like to ask how long you all waited before having your second or third child, and what age gap you feel is the best - from the parents' perspective and for the child?

Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!

[UmmuMuadz]

Hi,


I gave birth to my second son one month after my first one turns 3.

That was a manageable age gap for me.

Both was delivered by c-section. I'm healthy but not that fit though.

At times, I do feel some pain at the c-section area if I stress myself too much or carry heavy things. but that happens rarely.

[schellen]

I remember having a thread like this somewhere…but can’t remember exactly. Anyone?

[csc]

TimmyOwner:

Hi


Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!

Both my children are born under c-section. They're about 20 months apart. 2 other friends with 3 children - all born under c-section. Think the maximum for c-section is 3 , i think.

C section is a rather major operation so more time is required for recuperation after child birth. I was still able to breast-feed my two kids and carry them - but for the first two months, I think it's best to rest more in bed. And eat all the 'po' you can - so whatever confinement dishes my mil cooked, i 'walloped' them - actually i love confinement food especially 猪脚醋.
Avoid drinking cold water - drink red date tea (also my fav). Keep yourself warm and you will recover fast.

Well, it's up to you to believe all these but it works for me. I used to be rather sickly (having flu quite frequently) before child birth but after giving birth to my 2 children, I can testify that my health is much better and my mum commented I look 'redder' , not so 'yellow' like before.

Actually, I would like to go for the maximum quota - but a miscarriage put a stop to that - anyway - no regrets.

[Twins]

TimmyOwner:

Hi


Like to ask how long you all waited before having your second or third child, and what age gap you feel is the best - from the parents' perspective and for the child?

Also anyone has more than 1 c-section when delivering their babies before, and whether it harmed their health?

Thanks!

Hi TimmyOwner
I've had 2 C-sections, 22 months apart. I know of a friend who has had 4 C-sections, and is looking so trim and fit.....envy envy!!

My view is child birth is a major activity for a woman's body, whether natural or C. It's how you take care of yourself after the delivery that would be important. Of course, the obstetrician will play an important part. I was up and about by day 3.

In terms of age gap, it's really what you feel would be important. My view of having the kids with smaller age gap is that they can play together and share stuff like toys and clothes. Chances are they will also be closer since there are more opportunities to share common play interests, school-related topics etc.

IMHO.