What will u do if u r me???

[e3nity]

Fussymom base on the Singapore law unfortunately, if I change Ds nAme now it is possible by deed poll but if I change without his consent.. He can ask to court to revert the old name bk..


Herbie my problem nw is thAt Ds is Gg p1 soon and if I don't change it soon Ds will b registered under the old name which he dunno how to write..

[Herbie]

my nephew change his name when he was in p five. May be u want to seek lawyer help to see whether since u guys were divorced already do u still need hi s consent. Lawyer can help to chane yr ds name too…but got to pay lor

[Herbie]

my nephew change his name when he was in p five. May be u want to seek lawyer help to see whether since u guys were divorced already do u still need hi s consent. Lawyer can help to chane yr ds name too…but got to pay lor

[e3nity]

Herbie:

my nephew change his name when he was in p five. May be u want to seek lawyer help to see whether since u guys were divorced already do u still need hi s consent. Lawyer can help to chane yr ds name too...but got to pay lor

Chk wit lawyer I need his approval.. Haiz..

[Herbie]

oh may i ask if u go for the deed poll without yr ex knowing. I mean do it secretly n may b he won.t even bother to go n oppose against it…

[kiasu_pig]

e3nity:

Dear KS parents.. I would need some opinion if u were me what will u do?


I'm filing divorce with my ex currently on the terms on 4 yrs of separation. Since Ds is 1 yrs old 2 mth, I've been separated with my ex and he had nt been payin maintenance to the child neither did he visit the child.

Now that we r going thru divorce, he had given up his custody and gave me sole custody care n control. The only thing he is asking is reasonable access to the child and no maintenance or $1 maintenance for the child.

At the initial stage when we were separated, my ex took Ds birth cert to consult a lawyer to enquire about giving Ds up for adoption. I've stopped him in time by making a police report against him. Now that he is asking for reasonable access I worry something bad may happen.

I had proposed his access to be once a mth between 1-4pm on Sunday and it got to be in my house and when I'm around. Am I too much? 2ndly by asking for 50% of Ds expenses as maintenance is it too much especially when he is not working despite being a uni grad? I spend 1.4k on Ds mthly for his sch n classes.

Another issue. I believe most Chinese family will bring their newborn birth character to A Feng shui master to calculate for a good name. When Ds is born, my ex decided to name Ds to his liking. From few mths old to four yrs old Ds had been admitted to kkh once a yr. Finally in '09 I went to you long zi to hav his name calculated. Then I know his actual name is nt gd to his health. Since then I tried getting my ex to agree in the changing of name but he refuse. Friends teachers n relatives had since abandon his actuAl name and call him with the new n better name. since the switch in name, Ds no longer get Admitted to hospital and health is much better now. Which mother dun wish their child to b health and safe? Plus Ds need to enrol for p1 soon..

Parents plZ advise what shld I do???
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Sad to hear about your situation. Raising a child is very tough emotionally as a single parent, let alone the finanical aspect of it. Therefore, I felt that no matter what, the daddy has to pay maintenance for the child (no matter if he don't want to pay for the ex-wife m'tce, but definitely not right not to do so for the child).

I've nothing against any Fengshui Masters, myself also consulted a few over the years too; but I felt that the problem with (some) Fengshui Masters are they tend to start off the consultation session with some cautions which tend to be negatives. Probably to gain trust, before they dished out their own advice. So, it's best to take their words with a pinch of salt on those negative things said.

[MrsTan]

my sister divorced her husband before her 2nd child was born, her husband run away from family when he realised that the 2nd child was also a girl, like the 1st one.


He gv up custody, but fought for visitation rite, now my younger niece already 6 yo, he had never bother to visit them. He also had been paying maintenace irregularly, sis had sue him so many times, either he claimed he jobless or he claimed my sis wouldn’t allow him to visit the kids.

After using both excuses so many times, now court also dun trust him, currently my sis going to family court tmr to sue him again, hopefully, this time can put him in jail to teach him a lesson.

Though your husband not working or not earning much, is his problem, so long as you requested for reasonable maintenace and court approve, he has to pay, otherwise, they will help him to find a job, if he refused, they will take harsh actions on him, so dun be lenient w him

[e3nity]

jessicawongcs:

why not u tell him u agree for no maintenance but he must agree with u changing DS name?


btw, i read this
\"A minor, a person below 21 years of age, however, requires BOTH parents to sign the Deed Poll on his/her behalf. In a case wherein the parents of the said minor are divorced, both natural parents' signature are required, unless the parent signing has been granted sole custody care and control of the said minor. For change of surname, both natural parents' signatures are required in any event. \"

maybe u shld get the sole custody first? then after change it? check with your lawyer, if it is possible, dnt let him comes into your DS life anymore, both of you need to look forward since he is such a useless dad (sorry if i am rude)

DH's dad also like that, now he's old le wants his children to earn $ and look after him. To be bad, if DH has no connect with his dad from young, guess such things will not happen

finally he proposed no mainteance for both ds n me which has no impact on us since he nv pay a single cent previous. he also state in the agreement that he got no objection in ds change in name and surname.. he is giving me sole custody care n control and for any decision made with regard to DS he do not need to be consented and will not dispute in court in future. he even giv up the visiting rights and informed the court he do not wish to have access to ds.. i think this whole episode can be closed.

[MrsTan]

you should at least get $1 mainteance fr him, just in case he strike toto in the future, dun give up your right totally.


My sis’s ex never go court today, the court has issued warrant of arrest.

[e3nity]

MrsTan:

you should at least get $1 mainteance fr him, just in case he strike toto in the future, dun give up your right totally.


My sis's ex never go court today, the court has issued warrant of arrest.

If put $1 the whole thing will be drAggy.. It had dragged for 5 yrs alrdy, I Juz want to get over wit it asap Coz Ds gona enroll to P1 this yr.. Anyway with his lazy character n poor man thinking it's reali hard for him to mK it big one day..

Ur sis ex is a typical man.. Lolx.. I think most man when come to divorce case usually will give the don't give a damn attitude.. Luckily my case, my ex is the one who had lawyer and I'm acting in person so he die die got to attend or elas he will b paying more..