South View Primary

[GKmum]

Hi,

My son is in 1:7 too! His name is Glenn.
Regards,
Jasmine

[GKmum]

My son which is in P1 was bullied by older P3 student which was a girl. Didn’t know about it till few days later, confirm my teacher and nephew in P6. Son dud complaint to me and cried tat he didn’t want to go to school. But I Tot he’s just nervous due to new environment and just normal teasing by others.

Now son is afraid to go to school. Nephew actually told me tat there’s a few bullies "gangsters" in school, he was also bullied before. I myself witness a few older primary kids using vulgar language when queuing up at the bookstore. Tis few incidents really makes me doubt my choice of choosing southview. What’s the use of having a few good students tat fare well in PSLE, when the discipline and moral values of students are not ignore. Really thinking of transferring school already.

[xjysg]

GKmum:

My son which is in P1 was bullied by older P3 student which was a girl. Didn't know about it till few days later, confirm my teacher and nephew in P6. Son dud complaint to me and cried tat he didn't want to go to school. But I Tot he's just nervous due to new environment and just normal teasing by others.

Now son is afraid to go to school. Nephew actually told me tat there's a few bullies \"gangsters\" in school, he was also bullied before. I myself witness a few older primary kids using vulgar language when queuing up at the bookstore. Tis few incidents really makes me doubt my choice of choosing southview. What's the use of having a few good students tat fare well in PSLE, when the discipline and moral values of students are not ignore. Really thinking of transferring school already.

GKmum, every school will have a few of these. You can't run away. Do transfer school if that is more comfortable for you but do think of how to teach your son to defend himself against bully (is running away the option?). My son was once \"bullied\" before and after clarification, I understood situation better and both son and I learnt how to manage bullies better too. Have you notice how the discipline master lecture the children? Have you notice the flats that are nearby the school (which reflects the type of families that would have kids in this school)?

[GKmum]

Hi OrangeBelt,


Thanks for your reply.
Yes, you are right, I agree with you.
I just return from the school earlier after sending my son, seems like quite a few of the P1 kids are "bullied" verbally by older kids. Some of the children are quite nice, when they see my son still crying, they comfort him. But I was quite sad that these nice P3 girls have experience these bullying before.
My son is actually very socialable and likes to go to school, be it a new school or class. So far teachers have commended that his performance has been good and will volunteer to go up the board or raise up his hands to answer questions. He’s not the shy type.
But today, he refuse to change to his uniform and cry from home to school, till I left him at the school hall, he’s still crying. I think he is badly affected. Now he’s quite sensitive also, he also commented that the children are reading quietly at the assembly, the teacher still scold. Hence, he have this fear to approach the school teachers for help as well.

I have reherse with him what to do if others snatch his things, push him or verbally abuse him. Hopefully he will learn to defend himself and be braver.

Sigh, quite difficult to teach the kids sometimes, we always tell him to be nice, well-manner and kind to people. Now the environment requires him to "fight" back.

At first we choose Southview becos my husband is an ex-student, and hear that its a good school. I should have done more research. Went to Bukit Panjang Pri before, the students are so much well behave.

[GKmum]

I was thinking of writing to the school’s principal about the concerns on the school bullying happenings and the conduct of the students I observed during my past week experiences. What do you think?

I’m not angry with the "bullies", children are innocent, perhaps no one teach them correctly, or they just need some form of attention from their busy parents. Maybe they are bullied before (which I expected), and their current behavior is someform of protection for them.
While for younger kids in P1 can also be guided on what to do when these incidents happen, who to approach?

[oneheart]

xjysg:

GKmum:

Have you notice the flats that are nearby the school (which reflects the type of families that would have kids in this school)?

I dun think this is fair stmt. Not sure what it's trying to achieve. I live in one of those flats nearby the sch and wondering what kind of kids wld u think i have. :scratchhead:

Anyway, there are bullies in every sch...even the so called top schs. My fren's kid in one of the branded boys' sch also got bullied... a classmate wld purposely put his feet out to trip her son whenever he walks by his desk! You can write to the sch P or VP to feedback. They do get back. In talks organized by the sch, they do discuss this issue & the have a dept to take care of pupils emotional well being. I agree that the best way to deal with it is to teach your boy to stand up for his rights. But if the situation did not improve, do drop by the sch to sort out with teacher.

My son in P2 this yr. Last yr his P1 was smooth sailing...no encounters with bullies.

[mummy of 3]

GKmum:

Went to Bukit Panjang Pri before, the students are so much well behave.

What makes you think so? :?

[GKmum]

I am staying at Hazel Park, very near to Bukit Panjang Primary. Have visited the school a few times to pick up my niece (now Sec 1) and enquire about PV before.

My niece experience in school is very good and peaceful. The children seems less rowdy too.

[oneheart]

btw, within 1K of SV...ie around the area of the sch also includes The Warren, Northvale, Palm Gdns & part of Villa Verde. Hmmmm....wonder if the children behave differently? :scratchhead:


I PV in SV b4 my son went in & PV as a parent with my son's P1 class a few times last yr. My take is that yes there were rowdy kids...but they were just behaving as children shld, having fun. Yup, they get reprimanded by teachers. But of course if it's really serious kind of behaviour, I'm sure the sch will take action. The children will learn that they will be responsible of their own actions...do wrong, get punished. They are 'going out' into the 'real world' afterall.

Oh.... the popular boy's sch where my fren's son was bullied is among landed houses in the East.

[GKmum]

Yes, I agree.

There will be kids running here and there, especially Boys which are more active.

My P6 nephew has inform me earlier that he has spoken to the P3 girl after my boy has pointed to him. The P3 girl is very angry and "marked" my son as he has accidentially bump into her without saying sorry during recess. The teacher is informed and the P3 girl’s parents as well. This is not her first offence, the principal has given a sever warning.
Hopefully my son will get over it. Still crying today to school, and refuse to change to his uniform. I think he is affected very badly emotionally.

Didn’t get to see his teachers or form teacher yesterday and today during assembly. There was 2 teachers at the assembly to take care of the whole P1 session. Was thinking it would be good if the teacher can check on him instead leaving him there alone to cry.

How should I keep in touch with them and check on my son’s progress.