All About Teaching Values

[dae099]

Character development is very important for the growing up stages of children, we, as parents have to educate them the right values (by setting gd examples) it would be very beneficial.

[Cathy Wu]

The children must see it in their parents…


You have to practice what you preach. If you want your children to grow and be equipped with good morals and values, you should show them how it’s done. They will follow

[Jworld]

When is the earliest a kid can understand values? I have been talking to my 3yo kid, but I do not know how much she understands whatever I impart to her. Sometimes she just turned away and I am not sure if she just choose to walk away (but can understand my words) or she simply doesn’t understand my blabbering.

[sall]

Jworld:

When is the earliest a kid can understand values? I have been talking to my 3yo kid, but I do not know how much she understands whatever I impart to her. Sometimes she just turned away and I am not sure if she just choose to walk away (but can understand my words) or she simply doesn't understand my blabbering.

Kids will do what parents do. There is no need to tell her all the time about the right values. When a parent gives up the seat to someone who needs it more and the kids see this kind act, they will also learn to do so in future.
Alas, I always see parents who ask the kid to stretch across 2 seats and there are so many people who are standing. So these kids won't learn the correct value.

[jedamum]

sall:

Kids will do what parents do. There is no need to tell her all the time about the right values..

it also depends on how receptive the child is to his/her surroundings.
the same action that i do (eg open the door for the elderly), i can get different reaction from both my children (1 will see it, the other will be oblivion). apparently, one is more the like dad ie sensitive to the surroundings while the other is like the mum ie living in her own world most of the time
but the more you do (good deed), the more chance that the oblivion one can catch what is going on.

[jedamum]

ok…on the topic of good deeds, my child is supposed to come up with something for Oral practice in school regarding this topic.

boy! he had a hard time thinking of what to say. when i asked, how about this incident or that incident, he would say, this is good deed meh? i thought this is supposed to be what we are supposed to do? and he’ll ask if being considerate is doing a good deed…which he think not. so what really is definition of a good deed if one does not feel a big deal of doing what is right?

[BeContented]

jedamum:

ok...on the topic of good deeds, my child is supposed to come up with something for Oral practice in school regarding this topic.

boy! he had a hard time thinking of what to say. when i asked, how about this incident or that incident, he would say, this is good deed meh? i thought this is supposed to be what we are supposed to do? and he'll ask if being considerate is doing a good deed..which he think not. so what really is definition of a good deed if one does not feel a big deal of doing what is right?

Jedamum,
I would think it is better that the child think nothing much of the good things that he/she had done rather than do a little like big deal

[sall]

My mother encountered a nice teenage boy who kept asking his mother to give up her seat to my mom. But his mother refused and kept glaring at him. In this case, it seems like the nice boy must have learnt more from the sch than from his mom. In the end, my mom thanked the boy for trying. His mother, in her late 40s, just kept glaring at him. I think the poor boy will get a scolding from his mom later.

[seekingangels]

Thanks for sharing. Really enlightening entry. Shall apply it on my kid!

[tutormum]

sall:

My mother encountered a nice teenage boy who kept asking his mother to give up her seat to my mom. But his mother refused and kept glaring at him. In this case, it seems like the nice boy must have learnt more from the sch than from his mom. In the end, my mom thanked the boy for trying. His mother, in her late 40s, just kept glaring at him. I think the poor boy will get a scolding from his mom later.

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My 3 DS are taught to give up their seats since young so now they do it naturally. They will also leave the reserved seat empty just in case somebody who needs it gets up at the next stop. As I'm getting old, my DS will let me have the first available seat which is the reverse of when they were young. Even when DS3 went out with me after a long day at school, he still insist that I take the seat. :love: