In-law problems?

[angegiam]

Haha, ur hub must be red in the face if he knows. Guess I must go for 1 too to see if I had murdered his family in my previous life or vice versa.

[angegiam]

[quote]My MIL and SIL were very nasty to my parents too. Recently, they invited my parents to my SIL's wedding, but the wedding card is blank one, said dun have time to write their names. My parents were angry, but said had to give face bec I will kanna gossip if they dun turn up, since none of the relatives knows that the invitation card is blank.
[/quote]Hey not bad lar winth at least still got invitation card. :lol: That time when things did not sour to this stage where I stop going back, my BIL was preparing to get married too. My parents did not even received invitation card. Only ask me to go home to tell my parents that they are invited to the wedding wif FIL giving so many excuses that it is not convinent for him to go up to my house to deliver the invitation card. After all family liao, no need so formal. My gosh................. :shock:

My parents so pissed especially my dad. He initially refused to go till my mum tell him the same thing as what your parents say.

[jedamum]

[quote]My MIL and SIL were very nasty to my parents too. Recently, they invited my parents to my SIL's wedding, but the wedding card is blank one, said dun have time to write their names. My parents were angry, but said had to give face bec I will kanna gossip if they dun turn up, since none of the relatives knows that the invitation card is blank.
[/quote]did the MIL/SIL said that directly to the parent??

angegiam:

my BIL was preparing to get married too. My parents did not even received invitation card. Only ask me to go home to tell my parents that they are invited to the wedding wif FIL giving so many excuses that it is not convinent for him to go up to my house to deliver the invitation card. After all family liao, no need so formal. My gosh................. :shock:
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can we not mitigate in between?
my late dad did not want to invite my PIL to my bro's wedding for some reasons/misunderstanding; i had to insist and go through my mum's 'route' to get the invitation card issued out to my PILs. all these, my PIL did not know cos they don't have to know; but ended up, PIL did not attend cos while they said they were not feeling well, i think it was because they did not like to attend such functions. :roll:

[angegiam]

I guess my IL wanted to invite my parents cox my FIL want face. It is just that they do not even have the courtesy to give me the invitation to bring home. Just ask me to tell my parents. Not sure if you get what I meant?


But anyway this is only the teeny weeny part of the ice-berg. I guess all is already beyond repair.

[winth]

jedamum:

[quote]My MIL and SIL were very nasty to my parents too. Recently, they invited my parents to my SIL's wedding, but the wedding card is blank one, said dun have time to write their names. My parents were angry, but said had to give face bec I will kanna gossip if they dun turn up, since none of the relatives knows that the invitation card is blank.

did the MIL/SIL said that directly to the parent??
[/quote]Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

[buds]

\"If we have a competition for \"THE WORST SIL\", mine will not only get champion but also special prizes for every category.\" :laugh:


This one statement alone suffice, mrswongtuition.

\"Thankfully, we do not hear from them (ILs) at all. Living our own life as a family happily with my family. We don't even talk about them at all.\"

Lucky you, then! :celebrate:

Oooooh boy, this thread seems to have revived aye? Gets me itching to write more stuff.. Let me distract myself by updating my other threads. :lol:

[KopiYing]

MIL & SIL! ARGH! I really kena hard hard by them. At times I still tear whenever I recall what happened. It's like forever MY FAULT. really long story and nobody can say who is right or wrong.


Seriously, I can communicate very well with a lot of aunties but how come not my MIL :?

[jedamum]

winth:

Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

dear winth dear...
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...

[winth]

Here’s how both our families will react to each other.


We booked 2 chalets, one for my brother and SIL’s hubby as their birthdays are very close by. Told the staff at downtowneast to separate the chalets to 2 different venues, but still we kena chalet next to each other.

My parents checked into the chalet on their own and SIL & her hubby’s family on their own too. We came much later only for the BBQ.

My brother (didn’t know of such ongoing war) saw my SIL, went up to her to greet her and said ‘Hello’. She just pretended not to see him, shifted her face away from him and walked away. He was so embarrassed, only told me a month after the whole incident. Even when SIL saw and knew it was my parents there, she refused to look at them. My mum even heard her hubby saying, "Aren’t they your da sao’s parents", and SIL just said, "Ya lor, dunno why so near".

I got very upset after my brother told me and told DH about it. DH talked to SIL and SIL just said that she didn’t know my brother had tried to say hello to her and said maybe she didn’t hear it. Ya! DH was really upset too that my brother was more respectful than his own sis who was supposed to be his elder.

And oh, throughout the chalet, PILs saw my parents too and pretended not to see. It got so awkward cos they were just sitting outside the stone table (BBQ) just next to each other. DH and I had to go across 2 tables to talk to 2 families.

And the conclusion: don’t book anymore chalets on the same date, thinking that nothing will go wrong.

No more birthday chalets after that incident.

[winth]

jedamum:

winth:

Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

dear winth dear...
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...

But why? It's difficult for me to stomach such unfair treatment...
I got a scolding from DH for passing them a blank card, but I just felt that they have to know how they are looked upon. To me, that was already a clear indication, without too much explanation required.

不要死得不明不白.

If people think that I'm an idiot, at least I want to know that that's what they think. I don't want to smile and sincerely be nice to people, but people still think that I'm an idiot. Maybe I am wrong, but it's a very strong principle I live by.