In-law problems?
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jedamum:
I suppose winth felt unjustified in this card case...
dear winth dear...winth:
Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...
My heart goes out to you dear. :hugs: -
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buds:
That's a good idea, perhaps you could start updating this thread that comes with the link below?
Oooooh boy, this thread seems to have revived aye? Gets me itching to write more stuff.. Let me distract myself by updating my other threads. 
:lol:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2561&start=480
See, I'm so nice to you... -
:faint:
I meant, my \"other\" threads.
The teaching ones.
Been busy lately, so didn't have
time to reply to the queries i received. :oops: -
buds:
frankly, buds, time to update your other THREAD...:faint:
I meant, my \"other\" threads.
The teaching ones.
Been busy lately, so didn't have
time to reply to the queries i received. :oops:
Thanks love! -
Errr, how come the guys aren’t posting anything? They get along super well with their PILs? Not me. I’ll need a whole blog
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TTLauPeh:
Errr, how come the guys aren’t posting anything? They get along super well with their PILs? Not me. I’ll need a whole blog
TTLau Peh, do tell. It seems that the men have gone unusually quiet on this. A man's perspective would be helpful. -
Well, to start with, mine are terribly intrusive and invasive. They live up north (must thank the heavens for that) but among the things that they've done when they visit are:
- rearrange the furniture
- rummage thru mail I've already sorted to see if there's mail for them
- open our bedroom door without knocking when they wake up in the morning
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Sounds familiar to me too.. :lol:
Mine used to do the re-arranging of furniture a lot.
But bo-pian. We're staying together mah, so i just
re-arrange back when i clean the house. As for the
entering without knocking, we oso kena but that
habit was kinda shortlived, i suppose from our truly
obvious displeasure. As for the mail, huh.... u won't
believe it, till today i dun hold the keys to the mail
box! :shock: So, i redirect my mails to my parents'
place. They used to be intrusive in how i raise
my girls and want to have the last say. They complain
to others how i so call bully hubs with housework when
he has to go out to support the family and stuff. I get
lotsa crap till i shut out all that noise now. They oso
got tired i suppose.... well, that... we won't really noe...
and things got a little better since last few years when
they realised regardless of what happened we are still
the ones here with them, not anyone else. -
M3:
I decided to read all the posts in this thread because I have been really unhappy staying with my pil after 3 years.
Things are becoming worse than before.
As I walked to work today, I was crying and look up in the sky and asked what can I do?
Sometimes I feel that I don't want to go on anymore. To take my daughter and leave for NZ.
So I decided to seek some solace and I particularly was captured by all the posts by buds.
Reading your posts make me feel less alone and that everyone is going through the same thing.
Anyway, I decided that I must be positive and choose to focus on other things to distract me.
And I am happy that I have an understanding hubby who fought for our rights to move out.
In a few more months time, I hope all these problems with PIL will lessen.
I was terribly unhappy and it affected my relationship with hubs.
Depending on the kind of ILs, some do back down after a few yrs
and some actually stay like that throughout their lives (hearing frm
other friends' and relatives' sharings). Yes, YOU ARE definitely lucky
to have such an understanding hubby. Mine was never in the idea
of fighting for what rubbish rights to move out on our own. He is
extremely filial to his parents no matter what they've done. And it
isn't exactly a bad thing lah. But it's just that he prefers i just
suck it in and not make a mountain of what he thinks are only mole
hills... Well, if he wants to be filial to his parents so do i. Especially
since we are both the eldest in our family. So frankly, to play fair...
the only way is to stay on our own ain't it... Well, sadly i don't really
see it happening anytime soon. Oh well, if i've done all those years
what's another few years... right... right? :evil:
Or perhaps forever?
:dowan:
God help me.
Heyya M3, NO you are not alone. You can come seek solace here
anytime. It helps me release tension oso knowing i'm not alone. :hugs:
I hope after your successful shift, you are a happier person now. :love:
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