Do your kids still sleep on your bed?
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How to train the kids to sleep on their own?
My daughter is coming to 5 soon. She doesnt like the idea of sleeping alone. She was taken care by my mother in law since young and she co-sleep with her.
My son is having the same problem too and he is 2yo.
I tried putting both of them in the same room but they still dun feel secure. We have tried waiting for them to sleep and move out but then they will come in mid of the night and ask one of us to move over. -
anyone have a good solution in how to get your kids to sleep in their own rooms yet?
tried the decor/painting thingee… body was sore from all that shifting and painting… with no results… my 5-yr-old princess still jumps right in after her parents have gone to sleep… -
mckenzy:
Get her a sister to sleep with?anyone have a good solution in how to get your kids to sleep in their own rooms yet?
tried the decor/painting thingee... body was sore from all that shifting and painting... with no results... my 5-yr-old princess still jumps right in after her parents have gone to sleep...
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My baby is sleeping on his own during daytime and his daddy sleeps with him every night at baby's room. From my observation, he always wake up in the middle of the night to see if his daddy is around then goes back to sleep again.
Actually some children are more ready to sleep on his own than others. I guess only time and trial and error will solve our problems :oops: -
[quote]Get her a sister to sleep with? Cool[/quote]
*er erhm*.... 2 will be just fine thankyou...
the pattern is currently:
. mummy reads to her in her room on her bed
. mummy falls asleep before story ends (dun laugh hor)
. she then gets out of bed and potters around the house like daddy
. daddy gets irritated says \"little girl.. time to sleep\"
. \"okay daddy\" and promptly disappears to another part of the house to quietly continue pottering
. mummy wakes up, yells at daddy, \"oi so late, go and sleep!\"
. mummy goes back to the master room and knocks out before her head hits the pillows
. 'little girl' squeezes-in on the same bed
. daddy sometimes has to sleep with 'gor gor' coz i get kicked out of the parents bed.
sound familiar? -
Shera:
I'm caught in the same situation. My son is 5 and will ask me without fail everynight to sleep with him in \"baby's\" room. If I do not answer, he'll keep asking until I agree and if I say no, he'll refuse to go to the room to have his bedtime story (read by po po)My baby is sleeping on his own during daytime and his daddy sleeps with him every night at baby's room. From my observation, he always wake up in the middle of the night to see if his daddy is around then goes back to sleep again.
Actually some children are more ready to sleep on his own than others. I guess only time and trial and error will solve our problems :oops:
He is always awake in the middle of the night to check if I'm still in his room. I have tried sneaking back to the masterbedroom or not going to his room altogether. It was usually a case of \"all hell break loose\" when he'd come storming into our room wailing that I was not in his room :roll:
It does not help that mummy gets a migraine the following day if she has interrupted sleep ... So most of the time the masterbedroom is mummy's room :oops:
We have been conditioning him that he is of the age to sleep alone etc and he knows that he should as I know he is embarrassed to tell his friends that he is not sleeping alone yet :oops:
Anyway number 2 is on the way and we do not know how that will affect our sleeping arrangements. One thing though, my boy is extremely close to me and I like the bond that we have
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My elder boy started sleeping in his own room when he was in K2. The younger one (P1 this year) only recently. I am sleeping in the same room with him.
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My 5 year old starting sleeping in his own room since 2 and my 18 month old, since birth. I have a baby monitor in the room in case my toddler wakes up for feeding.
The children will sleep together with us in the same room only occassionally. For us, I want my children to enjoy independence and understanding that we as their parents need our own private time and privacy too. -
This is a tough one, and definitely no easy way out. I know people whose whole family (yap, parents and 3 kids) all sleep in the same room because they couldn’t get the kids to move out, and the oldest one is 11 years old!!
Like winth, I use a baby monitor too. In fact, I have 2 because each girl sleeps in their own room. I did have a little tough time with the younger one, but it was resolve after we bought her a day bed. Turn out that she doesn’t like being confined in her baby cot. -
[quote]This is a tough one, and definitely no easy way out. [/quote]
Hi BlueBells,
You're right. As a parent, we will definitely feel close to our children and sometimes I still wonder if I have been too harsh to let my '2 babies' sleep separate from us. To a lot of parents, they would think that it's still too young for children. Most of my friends (who have young children) were sometimes looking at me with disbelieving eyes and mocking at me how heartless to not sleep with my children. It is definitely not easy thing to do.
My MIL learnt it the hard way though. Just to share. Her 3rd child slept with them (on the same bed) till he was 10 years old. At 10 years old, he got too BIG to sleep on the same bed, so my MIL had to sleep on the mattress on the floor. At 11 years old, the boy was forced (literally) to sleep in his own room, where she had to resort to locking her master bedroom to keep her boy out. It was an unhappy episode.
Meanwhile, when the boy slept in the same bed with his parents, his parents lost lots of private time together. So, loads of issues left unsolved, negative feelings left pent up and it cost them their intimacy. My FIL turned to extra-marital affair (a few, actually over the years, one after another). It seems like my FIL has finally left his last woman, but we don't know for sure. And my MIL is always suspicious and negative. Everyone in the family was affected, so whole family breakdown and became cold and lifeless.
My husband and I learnt their lesson and we strategised on every single step to ensure that we balance our family and marriage life. We made sure we had lots of time with children and loads of private time to discuss about child development, feelings, trips, finance etc.
To me, being a kiasuparent also means being a super-kiasu wife because a healthy marriage = healthy family. Having a functioning family is the best gift a child would wish for.
Just my 2 cents worth. I wasn't aiming at anyone here when I share this bec I know most parents have various strategies in bringing up their children. Please don't 'stone' me bec of my story. :oops:
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