Di Zi Gui 弟子规

[Charmaine_chong]

Dear verykiasu,


Thanks.

Do check out Fo Guan Shan for sat night dharma class. I believe there is quite a few nearby Punggol.

It is located in Geylang rite if i am remembered correctly. I did call up to check last year but due to timing issue, we didn’t join.

Amitabha Buddhist Society organised Di zi gui classes too but heard it is with long waiting list. Do check out if you guys interesed.

[cherrygal]

I am not Buddhist so a bit paiseh to enter temples to borrow. Would prefer to buy. If you see any shops in Singapore selling this DVD, pls post in this thread. Thanks!

[dimsum]

cherrygal:

Does anyone know where to buy the \"zhonghua dizigui\" DVDs in Singapore? I saw a few episodes on Youtube but would prefer DVD for easier viewing.


Dangdang.com seems to sell it but is this online store safe and reliable?

Don't worry, it's safe. Dangdang.com is the world's largest chinese online bookstore and listed on Nasdaq. There is a thread \"Order from Dang Dang\"
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?f=24&t=14081&start=1100

Many SG parents purchase books from dangdang

[Charmaine_chong]

True.


I myself bought a lot from dangdang but have stopped buying since a year ago.

It is still cheaper and place saving to get from library. Hee heee.

Would rather save it for travelling and spend only books that my child really likes it.

I simply bought too much in the past.

[furano]

cherrygal:

I am not Buddhist so a bit paiseh to enter temples to borrow. Would prefer to buy. If you see any shops in Singapore selling this DVD, pls post in this thread. Thanks!

hi cherrygal, i have the DVD. Please pm me if u r interested. thank u

[cherrygal]

hi furano,

you have pm…

[lovelydaughter]

Was heart-broken to hear my 11-year old boy mentioned that the assignments given by parents are not worth doing compared to his teachers as there was incentive of marks allocated in school.


Moral value is a crucial foundation but was overlooked in today society , with emphasize on academic performance.

It was even depressing last year when he mentioned that he threatened that he will rather commit suicide than studied. :frustrated: (he didn't study di zi gui <弟子规> when he was younger as we are not aware of this gem teaching)

lovelydaughter:

Below is the television program segment that Master Jing Kong 淨空法師 emphasizes on the importance of di zi gui <弟子规> which has been successfully implemented in China 中国汤池小镇

主持人：所以现在很多老师、校长都非常痛苦，家长也很痛苦，孩子很难教，你稍微对他严厉一点，他会跳楼，大人怎麽活！

主持人：你不给他讲，他又胡作非为。

How should we (principals, teachers and parents) teach children nowadays who threaten to commit suicide if we are too stern to them or misbehave if we don't discipline the them?

主持人：他们要请教您，怎麽办？

老法师：学《弟子规》，我们在汤池做的没有别的，就是落实《弟子规》，就能把人整个唤醒过来、醒悟过来。

Teach di zi gui. By implementing di zi gui in China Tang Chi, people will be awakened to reality and see the truth.


For video, please refer to link below, 0:16:28
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u348fZlqaPs

For full text:
http://smbk.hebnews.cn/blog-37435-29532.html

[lovelydaughter]

怎么教孝道?

How to teach Filial Piety?

(1) 以身作则
Set a good example ourselves

小时候冰箱一打开, 我的父母拿水果给谁吃?
拿给父母吃。
拿给爷爷奶奶吃。

When we take out the fruits from the fridge, who do we give to?
Should give the fruits to our Parents first or rather grandparents of our kids (instead of giving to our children first, teaching them selfishness)


(2) 亲师配合
Parents-teachers coordination

父母懂得跟老师配合,
孩子行为规范就变特别快。
Parents who know how to coordinate with teachers will see tremendous improvement in the behaviour of their children.

(3) 夫妻配合教孝 :hugs:
Husband and Wife synergy in teaching filial piety

父亲要跟孩子讲, 你知不知道, 你母亲 怀胎 的 时候, 吐 成 什么 样子.
你母亲在生产 的 时候, 叫成 什么 样子.
你三岁以前, 抱得那个手臂都要断了
Father should describe to the children the difficult ordeal that their mother went through during process of pregnancy (morning sickness) , at the time of giving birth (screaming due to extreme pain) and raising him up (her hands are in great pain as a result of constantly carrying them before they are 3 years)

母亲要跟孩子讲, 你父亲长期以来,
工作有多辛苦, 佷多亊都点点滴滴为你在规划。
Mother should describe to the children how tough their father spends long-term on his work so as to support and plan for the children

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fdCk03N9eo

[Our Jolly Companion]

Hi lovelydaughter,

I missed your message. Such a coincident.

My view, No matter what the children are learning, or what we parent want them to learn, we should first learn it ourselves and learn together with them. That's what we are doing at home. Although only my son attending the 弟子规 lesson, but we recite with him daily. He's too young to understanding the meaning behind, but after he can recite it, sooner or later, I believe he will understanding the meaning behind what he's reading. We have to have faith and believe in our children in their learning.

[mamachen]

hihi, does anyone knows if there are di zi gui classes in tampines? tks!!