don't really know how to talk to wife

[buds]

Nebbermind:

ah....so u haven't figure out yet.


When hubbies ask for opinion, we are basically seeking reaffirmation of our decisions. Just like wives asking 'am I fat?'....there is only one answer :siam:

You want to die is it? :siao:
Give our brader this kind of direct answer? :rant:

GEP daddy no less.. got IQ but need to work on EQ? :siam:

Joule, bro... I hear you.
But lemme get back here again once i'm done poking the bird. :pokeeye:

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=962529#p962529

[vinegar]

Nebbermind:

ah....so u haven't figure out yet.


When hubbies ask for opinion, we are basically seeking reaffirmation of our decisions. Just like wives asking 'am I fat?'....there is only one answer :siam:

I think it is human nature to choose to hear what we would like to hear.

Aiya,if the wife does not wanna hear a honest answer(yes,u r fat),just make sure u don't give him the chance to tell u that u r fat...How?.... Either u don't ask or simply stay as slim as possible.

I've been dealing my sensitive DH fr 11yrs. I still learning n trying to improve my communication skills wf him,so I be able to share my ideas or opinion wf him,without hurting his feelings.

For e.g. instead of saying this T-shirt doesn't look good on u,u could say,\"i prefer u wear the other T-shirt,its colour n design fit u nicely n make u look handsome!\"

[Harlequin]

sunlight7:

My DW argues with google map.....enuff said.

Hahaha.... I argue with GPS.... neh, the lady voice that tells me \"take a left turn, NOW!\", \"Keep to the left\", \"recalculating\", \"recalculating, please wait for a moment\".... :rotflmao:

[Jennifer]

sleepy:

Just 嗲 your way through.

Is there a SOP for this skill?

[TheAnswer]

Jennifer:

sleepy:

Just 嗲 your way through.

Is there a SOP for this skill?

Sleepy,
Please teach me the skill.

[vinegar]

嗲 confirms not work on my DH.He finds it hypocrite.

[Jennifer]

vinegar:

嗲 confirms not work on my DH.He finds it hypocrite.

I usu. speak in a matter of fact tone = not 温柔又体贴 in his eyes (maybe)

I speak at a soft tone = he cant hear me = I suspect he was not paying attention.

I speak at a loud tone = I am fierce

I also dunno how liao

[sleepy]

vinegar:

嗲 confirms not work on my DH.He finds it hypocrite.

Must be sincere la. Don't 嗲 only when you want something from him. Then he won't feel this way

[vinegar]

Jennifer:

vinegar:

嗲 confirms not work on my DH.He finds it hypocrite.

I usu. speak in a matter of fact tone = not 温柔又体贴 in his eyes (maybe)

I speak at a soft tone = he cant hear me = I suspect he was not paying attention.

I speak at a loud tone = I am fierce

I also dunno how liao

:goodpost:

[sleepy]

TheAnswer:

Jennifer:

[quote=\"sleepy\"]Just 嗲 your way through.

Is there a SOP for this skill?

Sleepy,
Please teach me the skill.[/quote]It's kind of hard to explain le. I try my best to describe...

The two things to remember are words of affirmation & physical touch (love languages). Must work in pair

Words of affirmation. I feel that men are like children. All children want to be good in their parents eyes. So as husbands, subconsciously they do want to please their wives too. With words of affirmation, they know they are pleasing you and will continue with their effort.

Give him full attention when he's talking. Can be about his day at work, his golf game, his newly acquired abs, whatever topic. Look for opportunities to say something positive. That way, he will always be eager to share about his day with me & I won't be left out of his life
Say for instance dh got 2 birdies and a par at this recent golf session & I look at him admirably & go 'wow, you played so well' something along that line la.
Say for instance dh tried a new restaurant with his colleagues and brought me there to try subsequently. Show appreciation like 'oh, the ambience is so nice here' even if the food is only not as great as I thought. Get my drift? Basically refrain from 波冷水

Words of affirmation must be coupled with physical touch, plenty of physical touch.

Say for instance when drinking coffee or having meals, I always choose to sit next to him if the restaurant seating allows. Then while we're having a conversation, I can trace my finger along his forearm or caress his cheek at the same time.

Don't be afraid to act spoiled and childish with him.
Say for instance while he's standing at the kitchen basin washing dishes, I will hug his back (physical touch) and say thank you for helping with the dishes (words of affirmation), plant a kiss (physcial touch) at his back and then bounce back to my room to continue surfing kiasuparents Or demand him to 抱抱 while he's in the middle of making milk for kids or during tv commerical breaks or even interrupt him when he's playing games on his windows phone.

Not one-off thingy. I do that all year round. Give him plenty of attention.

And when he's blissfully happy, he won't find faults with me. Even my tardiness and lack of domestic skills are kind cute and adorable in his eyes. Oh, & what comes naturally too is - my wish is his command :please: