Young people and stress
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i just read this article in today’s ST 25/4/13…‘monster parents breeding brats in HK: Study’.
it was mentioned that hong kong’s outcome-based education system encouraged people to be more selfish and ‘look only at the results’.
are our kids at risk of becoming brats too…given that there is also a high emphasis on academic performance here. -
Excellent post from Monica Lim and thank you ammonite for sharing.
Indeed, education will not be complete if our young are not taught good core values along with their mental faculties and physical abilities. Sadly, character building in children is often overshadowed by academic achievements by parents and teachers alike. This imbalance of emphasis thus breeds a generation of youngsters lacking in kindness, compassion, integrity, courage, perseverance, tolerance, self-discipline and respect for others.
Working together on a project calls for good understanding of the importance of teamwork. Cooperation is the key. The project can only turn out well if all team members work as hard as everyone else. They should be working for the team, not themselves. Lack of teamwork only illustrates lack of discipline, diligence and modesty. Sadly, many of our children fall prey to these character traits. How can society be a better place if our young are growing up with these traits and have little or no values to direct them in this harsh world?
It is thus the duty of parents and educators to inculcate in our young good core values. We have to be good role models for them. Values are caught, not taught. Children learn from our own actions.
When our children grow up, their values will be tested and challenged. How well they cope with people and life’s adversities is how well parents and educators have instilled good values in them.
Albert Einstein said this: Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
Let’s equip our children with good values to make this world a kinder place to live in. -
my son was paired with another boy to produce a home economics project.
that boy told my son his computer is spoilt…all attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions…so where is the fairness and the boy’s selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute. -
janet_lee88:
I can empathize with you.my son was paired with another boy to produce a home economics project.
that boy told my son his computer is spoilt...all attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions...so where is the fairness and the boy's selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute.
My son has his fair share of bad experiences with irresponsible and selfish team mates. Often, my son ends up completing other members' tasks. In one case, the leader of the team even took my son's prepared script and make it his own. My son was then made to write on another aspect of the theme. :mad: -
Fresco:
our kids in schools are already facing such issues...so, it's not surprising people in the working world will take other people's work and claim credit.janet_lee88:
ll attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions...so where is the fairness and the boy's selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute.
I can empathize with you.
My son has his fair share of bad experiences with irresponsible and selfish team mates. Often, my son ends up completing other members' tasks. In one case, the leader of the team even took my son's prepared script and make it his own. My son was then made to write on another aspect of the theme. :mad:
how can children have ethics if their parents do not see that as important :mad: -
School is a microcosm of a society. There are all kinds of people in the society, some are selfish. There are all kinds of parents and the selfish ones will pass on the wrong values to their children.
As parents ourselves, we can only do our part to impart the right values and provide guidance to our children to help them cope with such situation. In the example given by Monica Lim, I wonder what should Student C do? or how should her parents advise her in that situation? -
I really don’t know how much parents can do…given that our children have to face all kinds of people when they are in school. If they have selfish friends, the only thing to do is avoid if possible…like I told my son if he has to partner this boy again for any project, ask the teacher if he can have a change…explain if necessary.
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If I could turn back the clock, I probably would focus more on teaching good character and good decision making skills for my two kids. It's not too late now though if I had started earlier in their lives, they probably have internalised them by now. (one is 13 the other 9). Being an ex-school teacher, I put quite a bit of emphasis on academic. They are doing well in school but their EQ and MQ (moral quotient) are not as good as I would prefer. EQ and MQ are truly very important. So I have recently gotten hold of a licence to do a wonderful program for kids. You may like to read about it at http://www.gurukidspro.com/services under Course 4 BrainWise program (though not as complete yet) as well as at http://brainwise-plc.org/. If you would like to purchase its curriculum, you may do so through me to get a discount. I am looking at introducing to schools to incorporate into their curriculum so that our kids will grow up learning how to make GOOD decisions. I am also looking for trainers who would like to learn to conduct the course which I have adapted to our local culture.
Cheers,
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:sad: :sad:
Suicides are sad. If it is child , all the more.
And when it is one from your child's age, child's level it's .....
It's not official yet.
Spend last couple of hours chatting with my child. Just letting my child talk.
I am thinking of the parents, and tears roll down.... Heavy heart , dun think can sleep tonite
Just hold on to your precious children.... -
Sun_2010:
sun_2010, dunno what's bothering you. life is precious, our children are precious, yes, hug them and tell them u love them, everyday.:sad: :sad:
Suicides are sad. If it is child , all the more.
And when it is one from your child's age, child's level it's .....
It's not official yet.
Spend last couple of hours chatting with my child. Just letting my child talk.
I am thinking of the parents, and tears roll down.... Heavy heart , dun think can sleep tonite
Just hold on to your precious children....
hope that you'll see the light at sunrise. :hugs:
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