Young people and stress

[insider]

Children Suicide is one of my pet threads.


During Ching Ming I met my nephew.

He told me his classmate, 18 years old, ‘flew down’ from his 30-storey flat in Queenstown (they stay in same block), after failing a final paper.

Always wondering about during those seconds from the 30-storey to the landing, what were the child’s last thoughts of his short 18 years of life on earth??

This case not reported in the newspaper…

[janet88]

dolphinsiah:

My younger child , is often bully by her team mates....

She is always the one handling all the group projects....
None of her team mates bother to help.... :slapshead:
Even her teachers also agree she is too kind hearted...

Her reply to me.....\"Don't worry Mom .I am learning more than my friends\".... :xedfingers:

your daughter is really mature and such a sweetie.

when son's partner refused to do his share of the home economics project, i told him that doing it himself will help him to learn more.

[dolphinsiah]

:thankyou: Ammonite and Janet


For the kind comments....

Yes, let's hope all children learning journey is smooth....
And our next generations have better life.... :xedfingers:

[janet88]

i just read this article in today’s ST 25/4/13…‘monster parents breeding brats in HK: Study’.


it was mentioned that hong kong’s outcome-based education system encouraged people to be more selfish and ‘look only at the results’.

are our kids at risk of becoming brats too…given that there is also a high emphasis on academic performance here.

[Fresco]

Excellent post from Monica Lim and thank you ammonite for sharing.


Indeed, education will not be complete if our young are not taught good core values along with their mental faculties and physical abilities. Sadly, character building in children is often overshadowed by academic achievements by parents and teachers alike. This imbalance of emphasis thus breeds a generation of youngsters lacking in kindness, compassion, integrity, courage, perseverance, tolerance, self-discipline and respect for others.

Working together on a project calls for good understanding of the importance of teamwork. Cooperation is the key. The project can only turn out well if all team members work as hard as everyone else. They should be working for the team, not themselves. Lack of teamwork only illustrates lack of discipline, diligence and modesty. Sadly, many of our children fall prey to these character traits. How can society be a better place if our young are growing up with these traits and have little or no values to direct them in this harsh world?

It is thus the duty of parents and educators to inculcate in our young good core values. We have to be good role models for them. Values are caught, not taught. Children learn from our own actions.

When our children grow up, their values will be tested and challenged. How well they cope with people and life’s adversities is how well parents and educators have instilled good values in them.

Albert Einstein said this: Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.

Let’s equip our children with good values to make this world a kinder place to live in.

[janet88]

my son was paired with another boy to produce a home economics project.

that boy told my son his computer is spoilt…all attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions…so where is the fairness and the boy’s selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute.

[Fresco]

janet_lee88:

my son was paired with another boy to produce a home economics project.

that boy told my son his computer is spoilt...all attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions...so where is the fairness and the boy's selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute.

I can empathize with you.

My son has his fair share of bad experiences with irresponsible and selfish team mates. Often, my son ends up completing other members' tasks. In one case, the leader of the team even took my son's prepared script and make it his own. My son was then made to write on another aspect of the theme. :mad:

[janet88]

Fresco:

janet_lee88:

ll attempts to meet up was foiled as his mother had many restrictions...so where is the fairness and the boy's selfish mother who wanted his name to be put on a project which he did not contribute.

I can empathize with you.

My son has his fair share of bad experiences with irresponsible and selfish team mates. Often, my son ends up completing other members' tasks. In one case, the leader of the team even took my son's prepared script and make it his own. My son was then made to write on another aspect of the theme. :mad:

our kids in schools are already facing such issues...so, it's not surprising people in the working world will take other people's work and claim credit.
how can children have ethics if their parents do not see that as important :mad:

[wonderm]

School is a microcosm of a society. There are all kinds of people in the society, some are selfish. There are all kinds of parents and the selfish ones will pass on the wrong values to their children.


As parents ourselves, we can only do our part to impart the right values and provide guidance to our children to help them cope with such situation. In the example given by Monica Lim, I wonder what should Student C do? or how should her parents advise her in that situation?

[janet88]

I really don’t know how much parents can do…given that our children have to face all kinds of people when they are in school. If they have selfish friends, the only thing to do is avoid if possible…like I told my son if he has to partner this boy again for any project, ask the teacher if he can have a change…explain if necessary.