Thank you for all the advised given… Both husband n me went down to school the next day…having a long discussion w the teacher n discipline masters, at that time I just hope to get more informations n need sch can help to input us on behaviors of my kid in sch…I also emphasize that need to take care on his emotional as I think must have something pressure n push him to a corner. Of cos I checked on his close friends n their parents what had happened recently…the most important thing is to have heart to heart talk to him…he is a dyslexic kid, he had problem to express his feeling in words… All the while he is a happy go lucky child, he will not angry with anyone for long time. But this time when my dd asked him is the teacher and him had problems, he cried… I tried to talked to him slowly, to me actually if teacher asked him to shift place, really not a great deal, that will not make him angry till need to speak bad words which he don’t use it at all…to speak vulgar words need to get punished which I agreed n respect that, but what I need to know is what make him do that? I know my son character, he is naughty but not to that extend…while I talked to him, I need to deep in, he can’t remember but he just strongly know that this teacher"hate" him…he use this word…I was sad…he told me few incident like he tried to apply to become a leader, all the teachers of his encaurage him when he told them the reason is he know he can’t be one but he hope to try! But when he ask this form teacher to sign for him, she said" what"?? U get ‘blue form’ u can’t be one…he was very very sad, but he still work hard by giving another form teacher n this one told him, she will try to help him…he told me 2 teachers behave totally opposite, so he felt that first form teacher dislike him. Another incident was there have a group of classmates passed paper writing vulgar words, he was not one of them, when teacher cought them, my son is sitting in his own seat, but this form teacher insisted he as one of them, pulled him out n get punished together. He was very angry…from the story that he told me, I do think this time really not so simple…the teacher said my son scolded her on the face but my son insisted he packed n turn n mumble to himself…these also make me very upsad, if my son is right mean this teacher lie… From all these, I don’t know what to do as my son now only sec 1 still have 3 more years to go… How if teacher have favoritism…sch always said they don’t practice that, but we are human, ok? Another thing that worried me was, when my son sent that SMS at that moment, he felt teacher giving up on him, he mentioned honesty is useless, because teacher said last chance to own up, he own up yet she reportted to head. He was confused n furious, teacher give up n betray him… Lucky this round he had friends with him while walking home, if not I really can’t imagine what will happen to him. I am not unreasonable mother I do agreed that he make mistake, to get punishment is a must, but after found out story behind, I do not agreed with caning, as when punished a kid we must know the objective n what is the point, this time I think caning is not meeting the result that what supposed to have but this may lead to a bad emotional to my son…that’s why I tried to discuss with sch. And also must warn them as kids sent SMS like that, they should not just leave it or reply that way…now I still observed my son closely, his dyslexic teacher did mentioned that sometimes they don’t know how to express themselves n they need a lot of encourage. He is a cheerful boy, hope this incident will not affect his future character. Many of my friends said these should raise up to moe… To me I just hope my son to be happy n learn things from sch as same as the rest of teenage…

I always respect sch n teachers but these round I do lost the confident to them… Sch called me go down this few day to discuss, hope they can give me a good solution.

I received a called fr form teacher said my son SMS him and asked is die a gd option,I was shock n asked teacher what had happened in sch that day. She said my son used vulgar word on her, so caught to general office. I never asked more as I very worried and put down the phone called my son immediately. To stop him fr having such action, I reminded him what he told me 2 days ago, which he said the 11 yrs boy choose to die was stupid, so I told him don’t think of that, everyone make mistake but must learn to face his own mistake and don’t do it again. I will discuss with him tonight after work. While talking with him, form teacher called but I never pick up till I completed conversation with him then I return her call. This round she told me sch had decided to punish my son with deduct 11 points plus a cane, but not hall cane. I was very angry n told her off as no warning, straight to cane. She said my son spoken few times among themselves but not to teacher, so not being punished, now was to her so caught him. I commented that since she knew it why never told the parents, she was speechless n replied to let discipline master to call me. I called my elder son who just reached Hm to observe his bro. Discipline master called n explained few pupils in class heard n my son admitted so is a fact that he speak so is necessary to be cane. To me mistake had done can’t erase, I wanted him to promise must take care on his emotional as now he is unstable, and asked master to call my son explain to him since they are close. But I was confused as I don’t heard any vulgar words fr him, n he is a cheerful kid what make him do all these?When I get his story was form teacher insisted him to shift back to his original seat which he had informed another form teacher that he have sensitive nose can’t sit at original place. He was angry so packed his thing turn around and mumbled "…" Teacher question him n said she heard, wanted him to said out if not will report him, then she said i give u last chance u better own up, then he admitted he said, then she shout out loud to whole class said you see he speak that and reported to be rudeness to teacher n speak vulgar language. He was confused as he said she said give last chance but still reported him… His SMS to her was my mother was called, I know it’s my fault, now am ganna scolded badly, I wonder if dying is an option. Honesty is useless. Teacher replied which made me very angry…what make you think dying is an gd option? Then never call or SMS after that. We went to school next day, not because I wanted to get Rick of the caning, is requested the sch to see more details n to let us know what had make a 13 yrs old kid think of dying? Why a not violent kid need speak this language just only asked to shift seat? My son is naughty type but to that extend, and he is dyslexic kid, so their thinking are different. That really worry me…Can anyone out there give some suggestion? Now sch will cane him after exam…

I asked my son why he sms such words to teacher, he said he felt teacher giving up on him. I even found out few incidents that make him felt that teacher dislike him. Once his bro encourage him try to be a leader, so he apply by filling in a form which need all his subject teachers to sign on it. The reason he put in is he may not qualify to be 1 leader but he hope he can try. All teacher sign accept his form teacher said" what? You can’t because you had a blue form" she never sign. He asked another form teacher n that one sign and told my son she will try to help him…I know my son not very good good boy, but he deserve a chance, right? Why teacher can depress kids like that? I was very worry now. Teacher in front of us said my son scold her direct, but my son told us turn around n mumble, I know said mean said but to us if the teacher lie… Then what’s that means? Now I am not interested with whether he said that, is what make him behave so different! Is the teacher pushing him to much to a corner? She received a SMS like that never even concern or care to find out n make sure his emotional ok, she just called me, that’s it… Discipline master called my son few times n he never answer yet he can just went Hm without even called to parents… I felt really very irresponsible for the whole issue… I had few sleepless night…I am going to have a operation this coming Friday… This matter really trouble me a lot… I did write in to school n they promised will investigate. But will that help my son? I have doubt on them…please advise!

Hi!

Long time never online as work start to busy and having a new maid. This round I am quite lucky as i get one ex-singapore filiphino maid. She with me for 2 months and so far so good, although still always have some minor comments like she like to find excuse to cover another which make me furious and held a lecture session with her. I rather she admitted mistake then push lies around. But after that lecture so far is ok. will keep you guys update again in few months later.

Thanks for all the advice…

[quote]wow.. ur agent still have $380 range for new maids? :shock: The ones I call min. $400... painful with such a huge increase!!


is your agent responsive type? i.e. when you have problems or want replacement, they are still helpful?? if the agent is not too bad, would like to get your agent contact... tks!! :D[/quote]The service is quite normal loh, cos I had change many agency, and I thk this one reasonable price. If you complain about maid will also had counselling session. If some problems in delay on maid, they will help to get a temp helper. But I never accept la.
But their Biodata on maid always different one, so if you get maid from them double confirm yourself with maid. Tele-conference interview is better. I think to get maid is our own luck lo, so I am not particular on agent, but you must be careful when you sign the contract, like how many replacement, insurance all this better confirm, refund also must check properly. If you want the contact, please PM me.

peapot:

clk, actually your agency charging quite reasonable salary for indo maids. Can consider next time if i have a need for agency. Is the maid's loan still 8 to 10months?

That depend on maid themselves, mine got 5 mts loan even some is 8 mths loan. If they keep transfer then will hv more loan....

jiebdiaobei:

hi clk, how is yr new maid? what is the salary rate nw?

i oso feel like changing a new maid but the salary is far way too high. like nw my current one is 370 but heard fm my agent tat nw new maid salary is 480-500. oso hv phobia paying so high but if cm a terrible one den i will fainted liao....

nw my current maid wk with me for 2yrs+ but she kind of those argue type. when mistake being pointed out, she will giv lotsa excuses & nt admit mistakes. she is the slow type which i cant stand. walk slow & do hsewk slow but when cm to eating, she is No.1 glutton. always like to stare at my family members when they r eating. i dont like cos its rude.

Very Busy in my work, so no time to reply....This present maid actually not bad, but I need a independent maid which means can handle everything by herself. If I have time to train, I do think this one deffinitely can be train. But he language damn poor, i need to use internet translator to talk to her, even draw picture....I dun hv time for that. If I have time and can take leave for 1 wk or so, do thk can train her up. But too bad I dun hv such time, so I chose another ex-filipino maid who completed 2 yrs contract in Indian family. Hopefully can make it lo...but 6 wks to come lo, need to wait...
My agent replacement maid unlimited for 1 year, so is ok lo, but will loss on insurance cos once change 1 will refund 80% only. So far my agent give me ex sing maid salary range from $400-$450, fresh around $380-$420. reasonable. But biodata always many mistake, so I always asked to call and check myself...To me take maid really by luck lo...so if i feel agency fee ok, and maid salary ok, the rest i will find out myself lo, can't depend all by them....unless they really cheated lo..

LKVM:

clk:

[quote=\"raynreg\"]Wah, LKWM you are giving clk the cold feet liao :lol:


clk, hope you get a good maid..

Oh! thanks... I pray so hard for this...haiz....

My agent told me that as well, worry that will become her boyfriend, that's why talked to him derectly and now need to see him in person lo... If really boyfriend also nevermind la, everyone also will go through that, just don't give me problems later will do. I don't hope because of being my maid and never get marry after that. LOL... Just like my old maid 20 yrs work till 27 yrs old, now 31 liao, still haven get a boyfriend, I also felt bad for her...she waste her youth day with my kids n now too old to get someone better for her.

I wish you all the best[/quote]Yala, understand too... just try my luck lo, no choice chosen her liao. Today will bring her back. Warn her about all this. Anyway I need all your wishes, so that may help to bring my luck up....LOL!! Thanks

raynreg:

Wah, LKWM you are giving clk the cold feet liao :lol:


clk, hope you get a good maid..

Oh! thanks... I pray so hard for this...haiz....

My agent told me that as well, worry that will become her boyfriend, that's why talked to him derectly and now need to see him in person lo... If really boyfriend also nevermind la, everyone also will go through that, just don't give me problems later will do. I don't hope because of being my maid and never get marry after that. LOL... Just like my old maid 20 yrs work till 27 yrs old, now 31 liao, still haven get a boyfriend, I also felt bad for her...she waste her youth day with my kids n now too old to get someone better for her.

jtoh:

LKVM:

[quote=\"jtoh\"]
Some of these angmo wives don't stay at home. So the house is pretty much left to the maids to take care of the kids. I see maids bringing angmo kids to the swimming pool and read newspapers and chat while their charges are playing in the water.

And they are ok with these kinda stuff?

The employers? They're not at home so they don't know. Or maybe they don't mind.

And a favourite with the maids is when the families have dogs. Twice a day they take the dogs out for a 'walk'. But actually the maids just gather at one place and chit-chat while the poor dogs have nowhere to go. Or they dutifully walk the dog but are on the handphone the whole time.[/quote]DIE!!! The more I read you guys comments the more I get worried......This new myanmar maid I get, work with them 3 mths already, sent back because ANG MO employer complaint her English poor, can't understand them, and she had a bro work in S'pore, called her and employer not happy so sent her back agent. Agent told me that she will arrange a meeting for me to meet her bro, and let her bro not to worry her and let her work properly, and agent told her bro cannot disturb her as she is different from them, maid can't go out like them. I talked to this girl, and know she came from very far away from City, and she look very Guai type. The most impt is, she can speak English. I always not at hm, if the English can't communicate, I may face more problem. Now just hope that this one not influence too much by others as she just in S'pore for 3 mths only......