smurf:Hi Smurf,I dunno where to post this, so I start a new thread.
My boy who is 6 now has anger management problem I suspect, and he is very emotional.
This scenario happens on daily basis:
Sometimes when I'm busy, maybe doing some writing or making milk, etc. My boy would come to me and ask some questions (very joyously), no anger. When I told him sternly or firmly, 'mama is busy now'. Sometimes I add in, 'can I do it later?. IMMEDIATELY, he changes colour. Change from joy to angry, very angry. Almost furious. And he will REFUSE to talk to me even when I answer his question. If I dun answer him or ignore him, he will NOT let go,he will remember and remember and will later use this to rebuke me later, for whatever reason. ่ฎฐไป I would say.
Sometimes i would ask him, 'what's wrong with you?' then he will be angrier.
When I ask him some questions, sometimes he answers them nicely, but sometimes, he shouts. I dunno for what reason, he shouts. After that, he would apologize for his bad manner. he does know that these are bad manner and behavior.
I dunno why he behaves the way he behaves (hooligan behave I called that).
I really dunno what to do. I read up the web, and came across this : oppositional defiant disorder
Do I need to bring him to see a physchiatrist? :?:
I had some problems with my boy last year as well. It's not exactly like yours, but there are times when he just erupted from a petty issue which escalated.
I think the way to do it is to 'back off' a little. Not necessarily giving in to him but we have to be the \"cooler\" party. Maybe next time, don't tell him sternly/firmly, but tell him nicely. Or get him involved in whatever you are doing. If it is possible, answer him first before getting on with your stuff.
I know it is very difficult, since mums usually have 1001 things to do at the same time. But we all want to feel important to the people we love most so maybe giving him that little bit of undivided attention will help.
