If you could, would you decide on a 3rd child?
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No problem, insider. Er, my DD not easy to take care of, you know. She was a 24-7 baby until we forced ourselves to \"train\" her to normal human schedule. Yes, must force cos will get lots of heart pain during process. DH also spoiled her rotten so with me alone, she behaved but anybody else join us for the outing or even just stay at home with us, I sure die of exhaustion and frustration that day. Luckily, the others were smart enough to figure this out so we took turns to spend time with her.
Although she adapted to normal human schedule, she only napped 15-30 minutes each time so I sped through my own shower and meals. I forgot how many times I had to go pick her up to soothe her while dripping wet or still chewing my food. The only way to calm her was to have her stuck to my breast, even while sleeping.
So, does that mean I will have a \"good\" baby if I have a second one?
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schellen:
If you get some help from the doctor on your ovulation day, you can control the sex of your baby up to 80%. So if you are planning and want to increase your probability of getting a girl, monitor the ovulation timing. Actually, the probability of getting a boy is harder than getting a girl because the male sperms cannot survive as long as the female ones. So there is better hope to get a girl.... your second child dream is getting nearer...all the best.
If I know second child is \"him\" waaay before \"he\" gets conceived, then there will be no second child. Now, if you can guarantee that my second child will be a \"her\", I will be 70% convinced to have a second one immediately. -
ks2me:
If you get some help from the doctor on your ovulation day, you can control the sex of your baby up to 80%. So if you are planning and want to increase your probability of getting a girl, monitor the ovulation timing. Actually, the probability of getting a boy is harder than getting a girl because the male sperms cannot survive as long as the female ones. So there is better hope to get a girl.... your second child dream is getting nearer...all the best.
Thanks! I actually read up a lot about this topic online so it's not just the ovulation thing. Plus, my cycles are regularly irregular (my gynae's words). And ovulation sticks are soooo expensive. Is it sooo difficult and costly to make them?
By the way, by the time ovulation comes, it's already too late cos it's prime time for boys to spawn. -
insider:
I believe this computation is strangely accurate as I have seen it in my brother's kids as well as friends kids. good-bad-good and cases of good-bad and good-bad-good-bad. The one \"exception\" I know of is good-bad-miscarriage-bad again so it seems that miscarriages also count?schellen:
So, does that mean I will have a \"good\" baby if I have a second one?
Emmm... I actually had my third one after doing this 'computation'...
My first one when baby was like an angel (when woke up, would wait patiently for people to pick up with smiley face)...
My second one when baby would cry like thunder the moment he opened his eyes...
So, I thought I could 'afford' a third one who has a higher probablility of being a 'good' one. It turned out to be true, he is as good nature as his eldest. (meaning if my first one is 'bad', second one is 'good', then I might have stopped at 2 unless I was working towards 4 kids... kakaka...)
Mummies and daddies with two or more kids out there want to share the good-bad, bad-good, good-good, bad-bad, etc, 'computation' here? -
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schellen wrote:
If I know second child is \"him\" waaay before \"he\" gets conceived, then there will be no second child. Now, if you can guarantee that my second child will be a \"her\", I will be 70% convinced to have a second one immediately.
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hi, i am a busy working mum who dun have luxury time to surf net. However, recently will roughly check e new posting titles here which related. Thanks for all the important notes.
I have 2 kids and also thinking to have no 3 currently. The reason behing is because of family balancing. For gender selection,
I come across this http://choicebaby.com/.
haha but i think it is just 50-50 so haven visit the shop yet
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Tiny:
I have 2 kids and also thinking to have no 3 currently. The reason behing is because of family balancing. For gender selection, I come across this http://choicebaby.com/. haha but i think it is just 50-50 so haven visit the shop yet
Wuuaaah! There's a SHOP, people!!
Let's GO!
Niwae, now that the kiddies are bigger and am having more
time for myself and my husband than i had in years, its hard
to picture myself going back to the nipple in baby's mouth like
a buffet table 24-7 again... esp if its a BOY! Like schellen, i
prefer girls myself.. Let's not even go into the all-over-again
weight gain and other stuff too.
Now, its time to save more for the old days (start early),
kids education, set aside for (future, if need be) our parents'
medical attention, on top of other things... and just more
savings for the rainy days ahead. I suppose we'll stop at 2,
for now. More luxury for the kids and most definitely more
time to spend with them. May shortchange with a 3rd...
That being said, if there IS reali a 3rd one coming due to
negligence or accidents , we'll still accept with open
arms and lots of love, cos they're still god's gift to us.
Just my side of the sharing..
Cheerios! -
insider:
Not actually bad-good or good-bad, but a very different experiences for both.
Mummies and daddies with two or more kids out there want to share the good-bad, bad-good, good-good, bad-bad, etc, 'computation' here?
ds1-cranky baby; ds2-easy baby
ds1-sitdown and play baby; ds2-climb all over the place baby
ds1-listen to instructions todd; ds2-a mind of his own todd;
ds1-petty kid (can cry for hours over small issue/fall; difficult to pacify); ds2-rebounces easily (cry usually <3min and then all smiles; easy to pacify)
ds1-inflexible (cranky at change in routine); ds2-flexible (to any routine)
can say while my ds1 is a sensible boy, he is not a complete angel. and whatever is his 'bad' points, his bro makes up for it and vice-versa. -
Like your computation jedamum..
This means each child is different in his own way,
of the good-bad and bad-good, but make up for
each others \"bad\" with a special and unique good
they each have.. So, via this computation a 3rd child
should be a yes? -
hello i have 3 girls aged 5 yo, 3yo and 20 months.
my experience is bad-good-bad - especially the last one could be hell at times ā¦
my second one was good, considering that i could manage her well, and there were less occasions of frustration. good also that she was able to express herself and control her bladder and bowels by 2 yo.
so the computation seems different from the rest. -
buds:
hm...if the 3rd one turns out to be a girl, the idea of a youngest cutesy princess who is the precious darling of the dad and gets two elder bros to protect/give in to her...will it result in a spoilt little princess who can overthrow mum's importance in the household just by pouting to the dad?So, via this computation a 3rd child
should be a yes?
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