What should I do?
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latest update: my IH told me that his sister is sending her daughter to stay with us for 1 year and request him to fetch her to school every morning. I told him no way I will say yes and the way she put to him was like an order and fetching her daughter to school every day because there is no direct bus from my place....what the XXXXX :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
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I stood firm on my decision against the girl living at my house and finally my husband relented and told his sister. This was also due to the fact that he asked my son about the arrangement and he told his father he felt uncomfortable with it too. Anyway, I heard the mother had approached another of her sibling to take her daughter in.
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Think you make a safe decision as your niece sounds like a 计时炸弹 for your kids. i think she needs full time help, a family without other kids of their own to watch over her.
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pinky:
I stood firm on my decision against the girl living at my house and finally my husband relented and told his sister. This was also due to the fact that he asked my son about the arrangement and he told his father he felt uncomfortable with it too. Anyway, I heard the mother had approached another of her sibling to take her daughter in.
It's good that you are firm in your stand. It's also good that your son has voiced his discomfort about the arrangement.
It seems weird that your SIL should go round \"approaching\" her siblings to \"take in\" her own daughter - how would your niece feel with a mother so eager to be rid of her? If she is lacking in discipline, shouldn't the mum be the one who set the rule and discipline her instead of passing the disciplining to someone else? I think if your SIL has personally talked /discussed with her sibling and his family about it, and they offered to help her by taking in the daughter to monitor, then it makes more sense. Now it seems like a \"shifting responsibility\" case. -
you have a peaceful house, with just 3 of you.
Do not let outsiders come in, disrupt your peace and tranquility.
if need be, get YOUR own family members (your parents, your siblings, etc) to stand by you, support you in your firm decision, talk & convince your husband… do not let this girl come in. -
pinky:
I stood firm on my decision against the girl living at my house and finally my husband relented and told his sister. This was also due to the fact that he asked my son about the arrangement and he told his father he felt uncomfortable with it too. Anyway, I heard the mother had approached another of her sibling to take her daughter in.
Bravo to your DS for sounding it out. :celebrate: -
Hi Pinky, good for you that you remain firm and refused to take that girl in. If you invite the devil in, you can never get her out! I’m sure it’s one big load off your chest now!
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Hi pinky
Just curious, what about the other child?
Now, her girl is so much older? Your sil can’t let her be alone at home? Since she had left them at home themselves when she went holiday? -
ksi:
Think you make a safe decision as your niece sounds like a 计时炸弹 for your kids. i think she needs full time help, a family without other kids of their own to watch over her.
this girl is about 19 and quite rebellious (at this age I guess it's common but still.....) -
Pen88n:
pinky:
I stood firm on my decision against the girl living at my house and finally my husband relented and told his sister. This was also due to the fact that he asked my son about the arrangement and he told his father he felt uncomfortable with it too. Anyway, I heard the mother had approached another of her sibling to take her daughter in.
It's good that you are firm in your stand. It's also good that your son has voiced his discomfort about the arrangement.
It seems weird that your SIL should go round \"approaching\" her siblings to \"take in\" her own daughter - how would your niece feel with a mother so eager to be rid of her? If she is lacking in discipline, shouldn't the mum be the one who set the rule and discipline her instead of passing the disciplining to someone else? I think if your SIL has personally talked /discussed with her sibling and his family about it, and they offered to help her by taking in the daughter to monitor, then it makes more sense. Now it seems like a \"shifting responsibility\" case.
base on what I heard personally during their chats, they also cannot tahan the girl's behaviour so I guess they were also reluctant to take such responsibility and worry about their own kids 'copying' the antics.
In addition, the mother is also those who like to 'shift responsibility' type for eg when she goes overseas for holidays, she will ask her sisters to tabao lunch/dinner for their children and dun even pay them back. Same as the way she used the supp card issued by my husband for her clubbing/dining/shopping and not paying back :mad: :mad:
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