K2 boy always want to win, cannot accept defeat

[ckhoo5]

Dear all,

Thanks for all the advise, I'm glad to know I'm not alone
I do play family board games like snake and ladders with my boy, and told him sometimes we can win, or we can lose, what matters is we tried our best.
Will try to show more positive example and attitudes and hopefully my boy will learnt from there..

[Oppsgal]

My kid, throws tantrum when things don't go the way my kid wants. If lego falls down when my kid wants to build tall, my kid will start to throw the lego all over the place in a fit. :faint:


Wonder if when older, results not what my kid wants to achieve, will my kid throw the book away :?

[sunset_dae]

My son used to behave like this, each time he does that i will tell him strictly:\"Don't throw tantrum, if you kick and throw yr toys, i will assume u do not like yr toys and all will go into the dustbin.\" He tried to test my limit and there was once i really dump the toys into the bin and he started to cry and scream and sae dont want dont want, then i correct him again and tld him he shouldnt do that, suprisingly, he never does it again.

Oppsgal:

My kid, throws tantrum when things don't go the way my kid wants. If lego falls down when my kid wants to build tall, my kid will start to throw the lego all over the place in a fit. :faint:

Wonder if when older, results not what my kid wants to achieve, will my kid throw the book away :?

[MadScientist]

Good one!

This is a fine example of delivering whatever you promised.

That's also precisely what I mean when I say that the children will look upon how we live our lives, to live theirs. If we deliver what we promise, so would they... and they know that for a fact, albeit after testing limits at times.

It is similar for competitiveness... and our attitudes towards competitiveness. IMHO, it is not a phase that they grow out of. They grow out of the phase about the object of competition, but they retain the attitudes of competition and build upon it. So, indirectly, we as parents, determine if they have a purely competitive attitude or a creative/constructive competitive attitude.

sunset_dae:

My son used to behave like this, each time he does that i will tell him strictly:\"Don't throw tantrum, if you kick and throw yr toys, i will assume u do not like yr toys and all will go into the dustbin.\" He tried to test my limit and there was once i really dump the toys into the bin and he started to cry and scream and sae dont want dont want, then correct him again and tld him he shouldnt do that, suprisingly, he never does it again.

Oppsgal:

My kid, throws tantrum when things don't go the way my kid wants. If lego falls down when my kid wants to build tall, my kid will start to throw the lego all over the place in a fit. :faint:

Wonder if when older, results not what my kid wants to achieve, will my kid throw the book away :?

[Oppsgal]

sunset_dae:

My son used to behave like this, each time he does that i will tell him strictly:\"Don't throw tantrum, if you kick and throw yr toys, i will assume u do not like yr toys and all will go into the dustbin.\" He tried to test my limit and there was once i really dump the toys into the bin and he started to cry and scream and sae dont want dont want, then i correct him again and tld him he shouldnt do that, suprisingly, he never does it again.

Oppsgal:

My kid, throws tantrum when things don't go the way my kid wants. If lego falls down when my kid wants to build tall, my kid will start to throw the lego all over the place in a fit. :faint:

Wonder if when older, results not what my kid wants to achieve, will my kid throw the book away :?

So did you pick the toys back from the dustbin?

For me, I don't think is good to throw toys into dustbin just because kid throw tantrum. Instead, my kid is made to do time out for tantrum. Told my kid, toys are not for throwing.

Not sure did the teachers in childcare punish my kid :? Or just tell me so I have to punish my kid personally when came back from school. When the teacher told me my kid throw the tantrum in school. I told teacher that my kid also throw tantrum at home. But recently my kid did less of the tantrum and will definitely come home to stand one corner.

Wonder why teacher don't just straight away punish my kid on the spot when tantrum is thrown :? Better effect then came back end of the day and kid forgot the bad tantrum...then out of sudden got punish.

[sunset_dae]

Yes, i did after he promise me that he will not throw the toys anymore and i told him i will only give him one chance, so far this method of punishment works on him.

Oppsgal:

sunset_dae:

My son used to behave like this, each time he does that i will tell him strictly:\"Don't throw tantrum, if you kick and throw yr toys, i will assume u do not like yr toys and all will go into the dustbin.\" He tried to test my limit and there was once i really dump the toys into the bin and he started to cry and scream and sae dont want dont want, then i correct him again and tld him he shouldnt do that, suprisingly, he never does it again.
[quote=\"Oppsgal\"]My kid, throws tantrum when things don't go the way my kid wants. If lego falls down when my kid wants to build tall, my kid will start to throw the lego all over the place in a fit. :faint:

Wonder if when older, results not what my kid wants to achieve, will my kid throw the book away :?

So did you pick the toys back from the dustbin?

For me, I don't think is good to throw toys into dustbin just because kid throw tantrum. Instead, my kid is made to do time out for tantrum. Told my kid, toys are not for throwing.

Not sure did the teachers in childcare punish my kid :? Or just tell me so I have to punish my kid personally when came back from school. When the teacher told me my kid throw the tantrum in school. I told teacher that my kid also throw tantrum at home. But recently my kid did less of the tantrum and will definitely come home to stand one corner.

Wonder why teacher don't just straight away punish my kid on the spot when tantrum is thrown :? Better effect then came back end of the day and kid forgot the bad tantrum...then out of sudden got punish. [/quote]

[smurf]

think throw away toys is a good idea. because the toys belongs to him, he will feel more painful than time out. if want to throw, must throw it away, cannot pick it up from dustbin, coz he will think that mummy dun mean it. next time, mummy will still pick it up from the dustbin.


IMHO, time out will not work for some children. at least it doesn't work for ds2. he will just sit and do nothing, sometimes, he will sing song to pass time. :imconstipated:
so, even if i put him for time out 1 hour 2 hour, it makes no difference to him.

[Oppsgal]

:moneyflies: when throw away toys and don't pick up from dustbin.


My kid don't like time out. run away screaming when there is time out. I have to catch my kid back and sit beside me. Every few second, kid run off. Then have to restart the time.

:faint:

[smurf]

yup, waste money when throw away toys, but if the child learnt his or her lesson hard when throw the precious toys away, it is worth it. rather than you fuming angrily several times and nagging and nagging, or try to pick him up from time out, etc.


however, if he does not value the toys at all, then maybe throwing toys method wouldnt work. but if the toy is his or her favourite, then it will work. in any case, he or she must know that you mean it, the punishment ie.

[sunset_dae]

haha, tae what i thought so too, so i picked up the toys but must tell the child i dun wan to see such behaviour again and im giving him one chance only.

Oppsgal:

:moneyflies: when throw away toys and don't pick up from dustbin.

My kid don't like time out. run away screaming when there is time out. I have to catch my kid back and sit beside me. Every few second, kid run off. Then have to restart the time.

:faint: