How to work with children with no interest in studying

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daisyt:

I have a friend, who encourage the child to play games when he was abt 4 or 5. All kinds of games ... computer, wii, psp, ps3 ... everything you name it, they have it. You see their games titles, you would faint ! Now the child is quite addicted but I don't see the concern of the parent. In fact, they are quite satisfied and happy that the child is so smart in the games, can even beat adults ... I just don't understand the mentality of my friend or I am too \"outdated\" in thinking. :?

No, you are not outdated. Maybe they think that he will become rich in the future just by playing games. (Yes, it is a possibility but the chances of it happening? :rotflmao:) Or maybe his parents haven't had the consequences (bad grades, bad eyesight, short attention span, bad social skills, obesity, etc) smack them in their faces yet. If those around them have already tried their best to get them to be concerned and failed, then, when the consequences kick in....., er, depends on you. (For me, if I have tried my best and got shooed away every time, I will then have the last laugh. But that is me.)

[daisyt]

schellen:

Or maybe his parents haven't had the consequences (bad grades, bad eyesight, short attention span, bad social skills, obesity, etc) smack them in their faces yet.

Actually, I can see some consequences already. Things like, cannot sit down properly to finish a meal, keep barking for PS3. Talk to the child, he is give you the blur face and eyes glued to the game. Must use games to \"convince\" him to eat or do something. As for results, because has not entered pri yet, so maybe still can't tell lor.

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daisyt:

schellen:

Or maybe his parents haven't had the consequences (bad grades, bad eyesight, short attention span, bad social skills, obesity, etc) smack them in their faces yet.

Actually, I can see some consequences already. Things like, cannot sit down properly to finish a meal, keep barking for PS3. Talk to the child, he is give you the blur face and eyes glued to the game. Must use games to \"convince\" him to eat or do something. As for results, because has not entered pri yet, so maybe still can't tell lor.

Ah...notice I said \"smack them in their faces\"? They may need a very loud and rude awakening lor if they are that oblivious or in denial. And like you said, he hasn't started formal schooling yet.....

[smurf]

daisyt:

I have a friend, who encourage the child to play games when he was abt 4 or 5. All kinds of games ... computer, wii, psp, ps3 ... everything you name it, they have it. You see their games titles, you would faint ! Now the child is quite addicted but I don't see the concern of the parent. In fact, they are quite satisfied and happy that the child is so smart in the games, can even beat adults ... I just don't understand the mentality of my friend or I am too \"outdated\" in thinking. :?

erm, what I think is that the parents might want to have some time of peace or just want to keep them quiet? games can do that.

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smurf:

erm, what I think is that the parents might want to have some time of peace or just want to keep them quiet? games can do that.

smurf, as parents, I'm sure some of us are guilty of using games and TV and PC as babysitters (me included) but I think this set of parents is a bit too much already. They even boast/brag(?) about their child's successes in games.

[Funz]

I just told DH not to introduce anymore computer games to DD and gadgets to DD. DH is a gadget man. So to date, DD has a gameboy, DS Lite and Wii. And recently DH just introduced DD to some kids’ games website. And practically everyday she will want to go onto the website to play. Granted the games are educational but I still think she should spend more time reading and doing non-computer or gadget related activities. Too much computer aided learning will shorten the child’s attention span as well. That is my opinion.

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Funz:

I just told DH not to introduce anymore computer games to DD and gadgets to DD. DH is a gadget man. So to date, DD has a gameboy, DS Lite and Wii. And recently DH just introduced DD to some kids' games website. And practically everyday she will want to go onto the website to play. Granted the games are educational but I still think she should spend more time reading and doing non-computer or gadget related activities. Too much computer aided learning will shorten the child's attention span as well. That is my opinion.

sashimi is a gadget person too but we do limit DD's usage of TV and PC. Since next week is exam week, she hasn't touched the PC except to send me messages via MSN today using sashimi's account. Then, she was shooed off to do a revision paper.

[jedamum]

daisyt:

Things like, cannot sit down properly to finish a meal, keep barking for PS3. Talk to the child, he is give you the blur face and eyes glued to the game. .

and the preschool teachers let him get away with it? if truly the gaming affects his behaviour, the school should probably be raising alarm by now.

mine already got feedback and discussion <4mths into preschool.... :oops:

[nkthen]

OK... I have a different viewpoint here.


I think it is fine to let your child play games...

Wait... the thing is: YOU PLAY WITH YOUR KIDS


My boy plays computer games, even during exams period!

I feel that the key is not to remove games from the children as it will cause them to be a little rebellious. You see, playing games is NOT WRONG but playing games without control is wrong.

Children have to learn this: There is a time to play, there is a time to study.

Bring in the point that a person can only play when he/she finishes the work.

I play games in front of my kids and I'll always say, \"Daddy has finished work, so I can play\".

I'll not allow my boy to play unless they finish their homework, and their homework must be done properly.

When my boy finishes his homework, I allow him to play. And I set a rule that he can only play for 10-20 minutes.

I will also do likewise, I play only 15 minutes and I will force myself to stop playing. I'll inform my boy that I finished playing because it's over 15 minutes.


In this way, my boy learn this: \"There is a time to play, there is a time to study. Even at play, I mus learn to stop\".

It works well for me. Everytime my boy wants to play games, he'll show me his homework. Then, I gave him permission to play games. He'll automatically tell me how long he'll play the games.

In some days, he'll end up playing games without doing homework. My punishment to him is that I'll remove the games for the next 2 days. This will be much more effective because my boy knows that he did the wrong thing.

[jedamum]

think we are slowly digressing into

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3058&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=15

heehee........