lonely at heart
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No lah, don’t think she is seeing anyone. She just wanna be left alone. Is she one that hates kids last time (before settling down)? Maybe she feels tired and bogged down with kids, work, housework etc coz this is not the life she wants or had yearned for.
And sleeping together doesn’t mean they are faithful (so many unfaithful people sneak back into bed with their spouses to avoid suspicion). Not sleeping together also doesn’t mean the couple is not close. Look at Sumiko Tan. She and her husband don’t sleep together because of their differences - one can’t take aircon, the other must have aircon.
Don’t suspect your spouse’s fidelity just because they want to be a hermit at times. -
Its sad when 2 people who were passionately in love, enough to commit to share a life, go cold and fall out of it.
Everyone’s got different circumstances I suppose, but I believe that the best thing in a family is always for the spouses to place each other first, ahead of parents, ahead of kids, ahead of work. When there is a strong relationship between husband and wife, everything else falls into place. Needs work, but is well worth it. -
Talk to your spouse lah on how you feel. Start being cheeky. Noticing some couples after becoming parents, they become so serious.
Rekindle those courtship days lah. Don’t let youself wallow in self pity. You are never alone, if you are feeling this way…i am sure your spouse also feel this way. Remember don’t let this "lonely feeling" drag for too long otherwise it will become a norm and by then it will be too late. -
i agree with laughing cat. being together, in any form of relationship at all, is like working. after you pass the "interview" and get the job (getting married) is not all. you have to work constantly to keep the flame bright and warm. Even then, there will be constant appraisals and that’s what being together is about. working for and caring for the other. ((:
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IMO passion only gets you that far, not easy to stay passionate forever.
Thats why most of the people who have been dating for many years dont end up gettin married as eventually the passion dies out. Personally i think the next level up is familyties and kinship. Just my 2cts worth. -
We dated for 7 years and I was feeling bored to go out with my bf (hubby). We decided to get married and things took a turn, with some "spices" added into our life. 2 years passed and life seem monotonous again, then we decided to have a kid. With children, our lives are never the same again.
To me, communication is very important. If I feel empty, I’ll talk to my husband and work out what can be done. It is not easy to sustain the passion in a relationship but we are still adjusting and trying to improve our quality in marriage. -
Agree communication is most important. I also think romantic love (physical) is not the be all and end all. Mutual admiration (intelligence, talents, values etc) can be just as fulfilling.
Not every one has a high need for passion / touch (read "Five Love Languages") so we can’t judge a relationship by how physical a couple is. Not holding hands etc doesn’t mean the couple is not in love. I have a friend who was super manja with her hubby and now, after having a young son, they are divorced.
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