Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid

[cherrygal]

Dun forget to check her vision. Some kids lose interest if they cannot see well. Check this before you send her for ADD diagnosis. Very impt.

[Andaiz]

Hi there, my 9 year old is also a bright child but no sense of urgency. I notice that sometimes, she claims to be \"bored\" and then troop off to do her own thing.


I don't think she's ADD but I was also reading up on Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) which is a fairly unknown diagnosis here in Singapore.

You may want to take a look at this link http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/
before bringing him/her in for a diagnosis.
I've not sent her for a test BTW - I think I'm partly in denial, and partly to watch this more closely and then decide if its just attentional issues or really processing issues. HTH.

[cherrygal]

haha, nowadays, parents are all very kiasu and wealthy enough to get their "lazy" kids diagnosed for various disorders. In the past, our parents just cane us if we are lazy… dun study go and sweep floor next time.


I still think an eye check is the least we could do to eliminate this factor.

[chic_savvy]

Thanks parents for your share of stories and advice.


Her last eye sight check was mid last year in her school annual check. It was normal. She also sits at the back of the class now (but also not far away from the white board) and seems to manage well.

Btw, do attention deficit symptoms only applied to lose of focus in school and home work? :evil: Cos when it comes to play, she's becomes vibrant and could even divulge nitty gritty details about certain cartoons, animations... Can't understand why she can't apply her enthusiasm into her serious work. :slapshead:

And she isn't over hyper though, just like a normal kid who gets all sweaty and energetic when it comes to play. Able to stop when asked to. And beanbear's situation is very similar to my girl's, she only loses her focus and concentration on serious and basic stuffs.

Cherry gal, you are right, my time (or our time), there were no excuses or reasons for a child when they behaved lazy. Work not done, :spank: ! Now even being \"lazy\" can be labelled as a disorder.

[chic_savvy]

Yes, think I will get her eye sight checked as well

[yuanyuan mama]

Hi,


My dd is in P3. She is not lazy but low attention span. Her tuition teacher would complaint to me that she sort of losing her focus in the mid till the end of the lesson. Her school teacher told me exactly the same thing last year.

Also, my gal is very forgetful. I don't know how many times I had replaced the erasers, water bottle, rulers.......as she either forgot where she placed it or \"lost to no where\" as she claimed. I scolded, reminded and threatened with cane, no use. Still the same, to the extend that I suspect something wrong with her.

Any advice for me, please feel free to share. I am at my wits' end too :slapshead:

[cherrygal]

Hi yuanyuan mama

Think your gal is not forgetful, just not responsible for her things coz things get replaced when lost. It’s not her money anyway…

My son dropped his Casio watch, misplaced his adidas waterbottle, lost countless erasers. For expensive things that he lost, the replacements are now free water bottles / $2 Daiso watch. I told him we won’t buy nice things for him anymore coz he can’t look after them. Too bad.

My son’s teacher also wrote that he would have done better if he had more focus. He’s still in Band 1 despite the loss in focus but I tell him he could have gotten prizes if he just talked less. I believe this is a phase as they are still young. Most kids wake up in P5 when PSLE looms.

Silver lining: my hubby’s fren’s son was a lazy boy from P1 - P5. At P5 he woke up and scored very well for his PSLE. He is now a brain surgeon in the UK as he studied at Imperial College. Hang in there.

[yuanyuan mama]

Hi Cherrygal,


I hope that "wake up" day would come very soon. I scolded her many times as not being responsible to take care of her stuff. Walked her back to school to retrieve the stuff instead of replacing for her, still won’t work.

Now am asking her everytime "Did you check your pencil box or leave anything" whenever I fetch her from school or tuition center. Really fed up. hmmmmmm…

[babymama02]

kids love to play

[Singfrench]

we shouldn’t be so quick to label our kids lazy, add, spd etc… they are just being kids and our education system is just making them hate learning… i’m looking forward to the day we have a real educational reform where kids don’t have to be under pressure from p1. This truly kills their joy and innate desire to learn.


in terms of losing things…these are entitlement issues. Kids these days fall back too much on their parents, my kids take everything for granted too.

As for sensory processing there’s an excellent book with activities we could do with our kids with or without spd. think its called ‘the out of sync child’