Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid
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Yes, think I will get her eye sight checked as well
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Hi,
My dd is in P3. She is not lazy but low attention span. Her tuition teacher would complaint to me that she sort of losing her focus in the mid till the end of the lesson. Her school teacher told me exactly the same thing last year.
Also, my gal is very forgetful. I don't know how many times I had replaced the erasers, water bottle, rulers.......as she either forgot where she placed it or \"lost to no where\" as she claimed. I scolded, reminded and threatened with cane, no use. Still the same, to the extend that I suspect something wrong with her.
Any advice for me, please feel free to share. I am at my wits' end too :slapshead: -
Hi yuanyuan mama
Think your gal is not forgetful, just not responsible for her things coz things get replaced when lost. It’s not her money anyway…
My son dropped his Casio watch, misplaced his adidas waterbottle, lost countless erasers. For expensive things that he lost, the replacements are now free water bottles / $2 Daiso watch. I told him we won’t buy nice things for him anymore coz he can’t look after them. Too bad.
My son’s teacher also wrote that he would have done better if he had more focus. He’s still in Band 1 despite the loss in focus but I tell him he could have gotten prizes if he just talked less. I believe this is a phase as they are still young. Most kids wake up in P5 when PSLE looms.
Silver lining: my hubby’s fren’s son was a lazy boy from P1 - P5. At P5 he woke up and scored very well for his PSLE. He is now a brain surgeon in the UK as he studied at Imperial College. Hang in there. -
Hi Cherrygal,
I hope that "wake up" day would come very soon. I scolded her many times as not being responsible to take care of her stuff. Walked her back to school to retrieve the stuff instead of replacing for her, still won’t work.
Now am asking her everytime "Did you check your pencil box or leave anything" whenever I fetch her from school or tuition center. Really fed up. hmmmmmm… -
kids love to play
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we shouldn’t be so quick to label our kids lazy, add, spd etc… they are just being kids and our education system is just making them hate learning… i’m looking forward to the day we have a real educational reform where kids don’t have to be under pressure from p1. This truly kills their joy and innate desire to learn.
in terms of losing things…these are entitlement issues. Kids these days fall back too much on their parents, my kids take everything for granted too.
As for sensory processing there’s an excellent book with activities we could do with our kids with or without spd. think its called ‘the out of sync child’ -
My p2 boy is also slow and forgetful. And he is not independent and confident so always not sure what to do, when to do etc etc. How can I train him to be more focus and more confident? I find out I am always sitting next to him while he was doing homework at home. When I step out of him room, he will call me within 1 min 'Mummy, how to do this qs?' Really driving me nuts.
His big brother (sec 1) is a nightmare. He is having this 'can't be bothered' attitude right now. Marks are going all the way to the south and despite endless conversation with him, we don't see any improvements. How to talk/understand a teenager and motivate and encourage him? How to tolerate his mood swing and disrespectful and rebellious stage? Or must I wait till he is 'awake' so he will work hard? Some friends told me their kids only woke up b4 O-level, wow, how many more stressful years for me to go?
Having kids really is life long journey as I find myself learning something new (good & bad) everyday!
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Cherry gal, your reply made me laugh so hard!
And yuan yuan mummy, I think my girl is so much like your child! Loses things as well.
On the other hand, we should teach them the value of money. Tell them if they ever lose their things again, it's gona come from their bank accounts or pocket money. This is one way to ensure that they treasure things. My girl recently lost an eraser (the 3rd time) after a couple of days given. I was so pissed that I didn't let her use a proper eraser. Now, she is using the make shift eraser from her mechanical pencil :evil: and I have change her pocket money to daily instead of weekly amount. I told her since you don't know how to take care of your things, you will suffer in embarrassment until you really needed one. I don't know if this method works but never try never know.. :xedfingers:
Silver Lining: I like to think them as mutants. Ability to lose things! :rotflmao: -
beanbear:
Hi chic-savvy,
My girl is similar - very bright, articulate, yet no sense of urgency, takes a long time to complete tasks, cannot finish exam questions, find it hard to focus during lessons. Recently she was diagnosed with Attention deficit. It's more uncommon with girls. DD is 10 years old and in her earlier years she was displaying low focus, takes long time to finish homework, forgetfullness but I wasn't aware that she had ADD until she started to fail in her exams from P3 onwards. If you notice more symptoms of lack of focus and difficulties in finishing work, you probably should seek help from an educational psychologist to get a proper diagnosis and suggestions for how to help your child cope. It gets tougher when academic requirements become more demanding.
Hi Beanbear,
May I know how do u go abt getting yr girl dignosed that she has ADD? What's the remedy? -
Glad to chance upon this thread.
My boy has also been labelled as such last year by his teachers in N2 but he's very focused when he is at play or watching his favourite shows so they rule out ADD.
The other day he was on MC at home, skip his usual afternoon nap time and chiong his scooter all afternoon. When I ask him to quiet down to practice writing, he got stung by sleep bug and went straight to zzz. :snooze:
I super like this !chic_savvy:
Cherry gal, you are right, my time (or our time), there were no excuses or reasons for a child when they behaved lazy. Work not done, :spank: ! Now even being \"lazy\" can be labelled as a disorder.
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