Lazy & Low Attention Span Kid
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kids love to play
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we shouldn’t be so quick to label our kids lazy, add, spd etc… they are just being kids and our education system is just making them hate learning… i’m looking forward to the day we have a real educational reform where kids don’t have to be under pressure from p1. This truly kills their joy and innate desire to learn.
in terms of losing things…these are entitlement issues. Kids these days fall back too much on their parents, my kids take everything for granted too.
As for sensory processing there’s an excellent book with activities we could do with our kids with or without spd. think its called ‘the out of sync child’ -
My p2 boy is also slow and forgetful. And he is not independent and confident so always not sure what to do, when to do etc etc. How can I train him to be more focus and more confident? I find out I am always sitting next to him while he was doing homework at home. When I step out of him room, he will call me within 1 min 'Mummy, how to do this qs?' Really driving me nuts.
His big brother (sec 1) is a nightmare. He is having this 'can't be bothered' attitude right now. Marks are going all the way to the south and despite endless conversation with him, we don't see any improvements. How to talk/understand a teenager and motivate and encourage him? How to tolerate his mood swing and disrespectful and rebellious stage? Or must I wait till he is 'awake' so he will work hard? Some friends told me their kids only woke up b4 O-level, wow, how many more stressful years for me to go?
Having kids really is life long journey as I find myself learning something new (good & bad) everyday!
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Cherry gal, your reply made me laugh so hard!
And yuan yuan mummy, I think my girl is so much like your child! Loses things as well.
On the other hand, we should teach them the value of money. Tell them if they ever lose their things again, it's gona come from their bank accounts or pocket money. This is one way to ensure that they treasure things. My girl recently lost an eraser (the 3rd time) after a couple of days given. I was so pissed that I didn't let her use a proper eraser. Now, she is using the make shift eraser from her mechanical pencil :evil: and I have change her pocket money to daily instead of weekly amount. I told her since you don't know how to take care of your things, you will suffer in embarrassment until you really needed one. I don't know if this method works but never try never know.. :xedfingers:
Silver Lining: I like to think them as mutants. Ability to lose things! :rotflmao: -
beanbear:
Hi chic-savvy,
My girl is similar - very bright, articulate, yet no sense of urgency, takes a long time to complete tasks, cannot finish exam questions, find it hard to focus during lessons. Recently she was diagnosed with Attention deficit. It's more uncommon with girls. DD is 10 years old and in her earlier years she was displaying low focus, takes long time to finish homework, forgetfullness but I wasn't aware that she had ADD until she started to fail in her exams from P3 onwards. If you notice more symptoms of lack of focus and difficulties in finishing work, you probably should seek help from an educational psychologist to get a proper diagnosis and suggestions for how to help your child cope. It gets tougher when academic requirements become more demanding.
Hi Beanbear,
May I know how do u go abt getting yr girl dignosed that she has ADD? What's the remedy? -
Glad to chance upon this thread.
My boy has also been labelled as such last year by his teachers in N2 but he's very focused when he is at play or watching his favourite shows so they rule out ADD.
The other day he was on MC at home, skip his usual afternoon nap time and chiong his scooter all afternoon. When I ask him to quiet down to practice writing, he got stung by sleep bug and went straight to zzz. :snooze:
I super like this !chic_savvy:
Cherry gal, you are right, my time (or our time), there were no excuses or reasons for a child when they behaved lazy. Work not done, :spank: ! Now even being \"lazy\" can be labelled as a disorder.
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My girl & boy is also like that.
What I do is to set a timing for them. Eg. By latest what time must bath and brush teeth. If they didn’t do it at the timing I set, punishment will come. For my kids, I will take away their game for few days. This is enough to scare them and make them discipline.
Now I save lots of headache screaming at them. -
My P2 girl also the same
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chic_savvy:
Hi there, I had the same trouble with my 4-year-old son when it comes to brushing his teeth and getting him to bathe.
When it comes to showering or even brushing her teeth, she would either take her shower very very late or forgets about brushing her teeth! I had to chase and remind her almost all the time! I really don't know what to do with her now as recently, I have also blew my top more often because of these. Tell me what I should do parents, I am at my end wits. :stupid:
At such a young age, I would think he's just starting to have a mind of his own so I try my best not to lose patience when he resists listening to me.
Then, I adopted to showing him the 'consequences' of NOT following my instructions. Like my husband had a bad tooth extracted so I showed him the extracted tooth with a big black hole.. I saw great horror on his face as I explained the reason of the black hole, not brushing his teeth before meals, in the morning and night etc. haha. And I took a foul-smelling t-shirt soak in prespiration for him to smell and explain that's what a person would smell like if he/she doesn't bathe for long.
This method works really well for me, at least for now. So every morning, the first thing he does is brush his teeth and he hardly resist a bath/shower ever again.
Just a suggestion.. then again, I'm dealing with a kid much younger.. do hope u share what works when u see a change in your daughter!
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Brownbear:
Actually, what you mentioned is quite a common issue amongst parents. The bad news is, motivation often involves emotional issues and is hence more complex to address. The good news is, it is actually possible to increase your child’s intrinsic motivation by identifying and removing mental-emotional barriers (sometimes conscious, sometimes unconscious), and improving self-leadership and resilience.My p2 boy is also slow and forgetful. And he is not independent and confident so always not sure what to do, when to do etc etc. How can I train him to be more focus and more confident? I find out I am always sitting next to him while he was doing homework at home. When I step out of him room, he will call me within 1 min 'Mummy, how to do this qs?' Really driving me nuts.
His big brother (sec 1) is a nightmare. He is having this 'can't be bothered' attitude right now. Marks are going all the way to the south and despite endless conversation with him, we don't see any improvements. How to talk/understand a teenager and motivate and encourage him? How to tolerate his mood swing and disrespectful and rebellious stage? Or must I wait till he is 'awake' so he will work hard? Some friends told me their kids only woke up b4 O-level, wow, how many more stressful years for me to go?
Having kids really is life long journey as I find myself learning something new (good & bad) everyday!
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