How to teach children to handle bullies

[smurf]

Good idea. That's what my boy did also. He said he asked that bully to stop and when he didn't, he said he looked out of the bus window. I asked him why he did that, he said he just want some peace. :?


I dunno lah, now he complained to me, then when I ask him totell that boy off, he said he want some peace...dun understand.

[Chenonceau]

smurf:

Good idea. That's what my boy did also. He said he asked that bully to stop and when he didn't, he said he looked out of the bus window. I asked him why he did that, he said he just want some peace. :?


I dunno lah, now he complained to me, then when I ask him totell that boy off, he said he want some peace...dun understand.

Yah lor... kids... they fight they cry and complain and then after that happy again. :?

[shurley197323]

My boy is in P2 this year. He has a big fat bully in his class. The bully had bullied almost 95% of his classmates like pinching, pushing, boxing,hiting etc since P1. But so far, the teacher only ask the bully to apologize and the case is closed. This happened countless time/ Till yesterday, the bully kicked my boy and boxed the other bo/s face again. I could not hold my temper and made a huge scene at the canteen. This time, the principal was informed. I told the school that the bully is not the 1st or 2nd offence but countless times and still they did not do any actions against him? :x

Can someone advise me what further actions can I do in the situations?
I told the teacher I want to see the bully getting punished seriously this time not apologising only. Right?

[daddybear]

shurley197323:

My boy is in P2 this year. He has a big fat bully in his class. The bully had bullied almost 95% of his classmates like pinching, pushing, boxing,hiting etc since P1. But so far, the teacher only ask the bully to apologize and the case is closed. This happened countless time/ Till yesterday, the bully kicked my boy and boxed the other bo/s face again. I could not hold my temper and made a huge scene at the canteen. This time, the principal was informed. I told the school that the bully is not the 1st or 2nd offence but countless times and still they did not do any actions against him? :x

Can someone advise me what further actions can I do in the situations?
I told the teacher I want to see the bully getting punished seriously this time not apologising only. Right?

Actually... i am a firm believer in self-defense. What are your options?

1) Beat the P2 boy up personally?
2) Complain to the principal? ->same question of what can he/she do?
3) Complain to his parents? Which is a bit redundant since you wouldn't be in this situation if they were even semi-competent as parents

There will always be bullying, playground, schools, army, workplace. Might as well start giving him the tools to stand up for himself. It does not mean teaching him to throat punch someone, but just standing up for himself. Anyway, you get the idea...

[Angelight]

My DD (nursery class) came home today and told me that a 'naughty' boy in school slapped her mouth! :shock: As she said this, her eyes welled up with tears. :love:


I asked further and found out that the teacher merely chided the boy and asked DD to wash her face in the toilet cos she was crying and tears streaking her face.

This is not the first time DD's classmates have been rough with her. I always told her to tell the 'bully' to \"stop it, don't do that. I don't like it\" and then tell the teacher about it. But she always ends up keeping quiet or just cry. :slapshead:

What shld I do? I don't want to complain to the teacher every time she got 'bullied' as it may appear I'm over protective. But it hurt my heart every time DD comes home and complain that so-and-so hit her. Any parent got any advice to get DD to defend herself from being bullied? :nunchuk:

[smartmummy]

hi all!

my p3 son tricky replying and use disgusting words and playing with sister that learning from peers.How to handle this?He said he learnt these techniques, cos defeat his friends.Thanks in advance

[Anon]

I am a believer that we should teach our kids how to hold their own from a young age. I always tell my daughters that they are born bold to manage the numerous challenges in life. Bullies only have power over them if they allow them. If you parents intervene directly, the bullies and peers will lose respect for your children.


For my girls, I teach them to avoid/resolve conflict whenever possible, retort with wit and retaliate with physical manoeuvres which do not harm the other. E.g. staying away from the bullies, not showing any fear when encountered, standing up to them with comebacks if confronted and neutralizing physical attacks by deflection or jamming.

It’s a great opportunity for them to develop EQ and character in the face of adversity. My P1 daughter was emotionally-bullied by P2 girls while on the school bus for the last 3 weeks. It ranged from unfairly claiming her seat, constantly mocking her name and deceiving her into moving a seat back on the pretext of sitting together. It was a baptism of fire but she bravely stood up to the bullies. Not only did she make them looked like lousy bullies, she gained newfound respect among her peers and of herself. Well, I couldn’t be any prouder for her.

[Allanice]

Anon:

I am a believer that we should teach our kids how to hold their own from a young age. I always tell my daughters that they are born bold to manage the numerous challenges in life. Bullies only have power over them if they allow them. If you parents intervene directly, the bullies and peers will lose respect for your children.


For my girls, I teach them to avoid/resolve conflict whenever possible, retort with wit and retaliate with physical manoeuvres which do not harm the other. E.g. staying away from the bullies, not showing any fear when encountered, standing up to them with comebacks if confronted and neutralizing physical attacks by deflection or jamming.

It's a great opportunity for them to develop EQ and character in the face of adversity. My P1 daughter was emotionally-bullied by P2 girls while on the school bus for the last 3 weeks. It ranged from unfairly claiming her seat, constant ly mocking her name and deceiving her into moving a seat back on the pretext of sitting together. It was a baptism of fire but she bravely stood up to the bullies. Not only did she make them looked like lousy bullies, she gained newfound respect among her peers and of herself. Well, I couldn't be any prouder for her.

This reminds me of my primary school days..... I was also bullied in the school bus before

[warriortemujin]

When a child gets bullied, the 1st instinct is lost. As parents, I think we should teach them how to handle it. Best is show them the right way to handle bullies. How you would like your child to handle, would very much depends on what you deem best.


For me, I like to teach my boys martial arts. Not to ask them to fight but at least I know that they could protect themselves, one day should they be bullied.

[Compass]

Came across article on How to Deal with Bullying:

http://www.family.org.sg/default.aspx?go=article&aid=943

Cheers..