Hi Cars2, Dim Sum and BettyBoop!


My son just registered in Nanyang last week. Wah when I saw all the chinese characters on the school walls... i know he is gonna kena hardcore chinese for the next 6 years... :heresmyfish:

Hope to see you all at the orientation. Did you join the Parents Association too?

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i guess the main gist of the consideration has to be transportation from NYPS to CIS in the morning and CIS back to NYPS at the end. NYPS has to be the official drop off / pick-up location, although i realize that some parents would rather drop off / pick-up at CIS. but remembering that these children are P1/P2, they really need to learn how to get home nd to give them confidence. imagine the chaos at dismissal when some children will be picked up at CIS whereas others will be picked up at NYPS. it will be so much simpler for teachers if all drop-off/pick-ups are to be done at NYPS. teachers will assemble with the children at NYPS do a roll-call in NYPS then take shuttle to CIS for classes. at the end of day, teacher will do roll-call again and take shuttle back to NYPS for dismissal. no drop-off/pick-up at CIS. that's my 2cents.

Thank god this is just your 2 cents. We bring our kids to NYPS, then they take a bus to CIS. At the end of the day, they take a bus to NYPS, before going home? What a waste of 2 hours (transport + assembly). And what if the kids go missing? Who will be responsible? Will the principal and teacher commit seppuku? I disagree with such an arrangement.

Is sarawak laksa the same as assam laksa?

The point is that your kid is no longer comfortable with the teacher. For the ease of mind, its better to install a CCTV. If it really happens as your kid says… :x :x :x

Hi, unfortunately the family courts/police are right. Remember, this is new to you but they see these cases every day. Take their advice. You have to consult a lawyer as soon as possible. Its going to be hard to confront this reality but this is what you have. Wasting time on an internet forum is not going to help. Now is not the time to crumble

I am not indicating you or your husband are right or wrong. I am sure you are doing your best. All I am saying is that the child will have to ride this journey and it is a long journey. Ultimately it is the child’s destiny too, karma in the past life ripening.

Hmm, this is just my opinion. Why would you want to change his name? If it is really because it is for better health, then what I will bring up is invalid. It could be possible that your ex-spouse views it as a grave insult. Effectively you want to cut him off totally from his child. Also, the access time of a few hours in your presence a week prevents him from truely interacting with the child.


Personally, I would do the same if this was imposed on me. IE give up all custody totally, financially as well. If the roles were reversed, can you accept those conditions as well? See your child 3 hours a week in front of him, continue to pay maintenance? I doubt it is because of the finances, but rather the emotional wretchedness it brings. Once again, it is not said to offend but just sharing, and I hope i do not open healed wounds.

Focus on the child and ask whether it is good for him to go through the entire range of emotions he is being subjected to? Name change, not seeing father etc. I was brought up by my mother under a single family. I had a change of my surname (not sure if it was for "health reasons"). My mother was/is unable to come to terms with her failed marriage and hence, handled things the way she did. My father was either dead in an accident, flew to space as he was an astronaut, went sailing on a ship, living in the moon etc… Naturally, I managed to figure things out as I grew older. During the teenage years, it was a tough time for my mother and me, as I harbored a lot of resentment. It carried over for a very long time into adulthood. At the age of 30+, I finally tracked down my own father. I did so not because I hoped he had money or owned some large business, but rather I needed a sense of completeness and understanding of my life story.

The reason why I am sharing this is I hope that your child can, if possible, not go through unnecessary angst. This angst if not cleansed, will be a seed that grows into something, perhaps, beyond your control when he gets older. Go to buddhism meditation and also talk to counsellors, if you can. It is the process of meditation and talking things out that brings healing.

P.S. I recognise that this is a sensitive topic and if I had caused any offense, please accept my apologies.

Oh man… this is gruesome. Should give it up for adoption! Its burying an infant alive… One of the worst ways to die.

Hmm, I think you should take some time to explain to him how things work. Example the bookshop owner works very hard to bring food to the table for his family etc. Sometimes, kids do not realise exactly what they are doing.

my thinking is very kampung. Ah son can be anything in life, except he cannot be gay.