In-law problems?

[buds]

\"If we have a competition for \"THE WORST SIL\", mine will not only get champion but also special prizes for every category.\" :laugh:


This one statement alone suffice, mrswongtuition.

\"Thankfully, we do not hear from them (ILs) at all. Living our own life as a family happily with my family. We don't even talk about them at all.\"

Lucky you, then! :celebrate:

Oooooh boy, this thread seems to have revived aye? Gets me itching to write more stuff.. Let me distract myself by updating my other threads. :lol:

[KopiYing]

MIL & SIL! ARGH! I really kena hard hard by them. At times I still tear whenever I recall what happened. It's like forever MY FAULT. really long story and nobody can say who is right or wrong.


Seriously, I can communicate very well with a lot of aunties but how come not my MIL :?

[jedamum]

winth:

Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

dear winth dear...
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...

[winth]

Here’s how both our families will react to each other.


We booked 2 chalets, one for my brother and SIL’s hubby as their birthdays are very close by. Told the staff at downtowneast to separate the chalets to 2 different venues, but still we kena chalet next to each other.

My parents checked into the chalet on their own and SIL & her hubby’s family on their own too. We came much later only for the BBQ.

My brother (didn’t know of such ongoing war) saw my SIL, went up to her to greet her and said ‘Hello’. She just pretended not to see him, shifted her face away from him and walked away. He was so embarrassed, only told me a month after the whole incident. Even when SIL saw and knew it was my parents there, she refused to look at them. My mum even heard her hubby saying, "Aren’t they your da sao’s parents", and SIL just said, "Ya lor, dunno why so near".

I got very upset after my brother told me and told DH about it. DH talked to SIL and SIL just said that she didn’t know my brother had tried to say hello to her and said maybe she didn’t hear it. Ya! DH was really upset too that my brother was more respectful than his own sis who was supposed to be his elder.

And oh, throughout the chalet, PILs saw my parents too and pretended not to see. It got so awkward cos they were just sitting outside the stone table (BBQ) just next to each other. DH and I had to go across 2 tables to talk to 2 families.

And the conclusion: don’t book anymore chalets on the same date, thinking that nothing will go wrong.

No more birthday chalets after that incident.

[winth]

jedamum:

winth:

Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

dear winth dear...
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...

But why? It's difficult for me to stomach such unfair treatment...
I got a scolding from DH for passing them a blank card, but I just felt that they have to know how they are looked upon. To me, that was already a clear indication, without too much explanation required.

不要死得不明不白.

If people think that I'm an idiot, at least I want to know that that's what they think. I don't want to smile and sincerely be nice to people, but people still think that I'm an idiot. Maybe I am wrong, but it's a very strong principle I live by.

[buds]

jedamum:

winth:

Nope. They say it directly in my face that they don't have time to write their names down, saying things like they don't know their surname and chinese name (though I told them that I knew how to write), then it comes the next reason: it's difficult to write, maybe I just write on it then pass it to them, so they get a blank invitation card.

dear winth dear...
maybe you could have take the card, write in the name before passing them to your parents and keep the PIL's comments to yourself...

I suppose winth felt unjustified in this card case...
My heart goes out to you dear. :hugs:

[winth]

:?

[winth]

buds:

Oooooh boy, this thread seems to have revived aye? Gets me itching to write more stuff.. Let me distract myself by updating my other threads. :lol:

That's a good idea, perhaps you could start updating this thread that comes with the link below?

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=2561&start=480

See, I'm so nice to you...

[buds]

:faint:



I meant, my \"other\" threads.
The teaching ones.

Been busy lately, so didn't have
time to reply to the queries i received. :oops:

[Andaiz]

buds:

:faint:



I meant, my \"other\" threads.
The teaching ones.

Been busy lately, so didn't have
time to reply to the queries i received. :oops:

frankly, buds, time to update your other THREAD...
Thanks love!