Crying 5year old son
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Ruohoo, this is such lovely advice! Thanks for sharing!
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ammonite:
:goodpost: the part in red...Sean wife, your daughters have eczema and sinitus as well? And dustmite allergy? It is a bit of a bind actually. My son is the same and it took us a while to find the right environmental balance for him.
The aircon-sinus link depends on the individual trigger. For those whose lungs are just sensitive to dry air, or has only mold allergy, it is relatively easy to get a handle on. For those with sensitive airway and eczema with dustmite/heat trigger, it is a bit more complicated because the easiest environmental controls contradict.
High humidity encourages dustmite and mold population, so I don't actually want to put a bowl of water in the room. I'm not familar with steam cleaning, but i amwary of not being able to dry the insides properly, and still having to vacuum the dustmite debris off since that is what trigger the allergy, not the dustmite per se.
But aircon on its own can aggravate dry skin and sensitive lungs. Heat and sweating also make them scratch.
One doctor's suggestion to me and which I have been following, is to use the aircon only for an hour or so to cool the room down, and then switch to fans for the night. We have floor fans for each of our kids. Dress lightly and powder. On very hot days, if you must, use the aircon during the day time for a while to mitigate the heat. In any case, the skin doctor, allergist, sinseh, all told me no aircon through the night.
But where his sinus is concerned, the best management plan has been a lot of sunshine and running, along with anti dustmite measures. For his eczema, managing the triggers and keeping him cool through quick showers and cool towels help a lot.
The steam cleaner is a pressure kettle. It heats water up to 105 degrees and shoots high pressure steam out a nozzle. Mould cannot develop because everytime it is used... everything that is mould or bacteria dies a horrible death.
You may be referring to the water catchment vacuum cleaners. These REALLY have a mould problem. We use Dyson instead for vacuum cleaners... or just a wet cloth so that there is litle displacement of dust. -
ruohoo97:
:goodpost:
My DS3 was a crybaby, really bad one. He is P4 now, even now he still has tendency to whine over small matter, though much better.Ran1977:
Hi parents,
I want to as k if you have ever encountered this situation before - my 5yr old son is an extreme crybaby. Tell him can't do this - he cries; can't do that - he cries. for example, can't go playground - he cries; can't eat sweet now - he cries...
It's not enough that he cries, he whines and complains over the littlest things (like just an old grandmother and he is ONLY 5!!!).
Worse if he does a mistake he cries...yesterday he fought with a few friends in the bus and while the aunty bus told me, he ended up crying...even the aunty bus told him \"You made a mistake, why are u crying\"...he said that he knows that mummy will give him a punishment cos of this...
How do any of you parent cope with this. I am a FTWM and am pulling hairs already cos of his attitude...after a hard day's work, it is very stressful taking care of such a kid...Any advice given will be extremely helpful.. :please:
While I was tried to find out why he is so crybaby, I also came across many theories and advises...
But one thing worked for me, NEVER encourage him being a crybaby, some says crybaby is very sensitive so we parents must be sensitive toward them, no, I found if I consoled him once, he would cry more often; I used to tell him that if he wants to get something by using crying, he will never get it. So I just hardened my heart let him CRY till he stopped.
When he was a bit older, in primary school, I realized that sometime he cried because he could not express his feeling well. So I asked him to write it down, or draw a picture. I bought him a beautiful sketch book, and some cute stickers, like sad face, happy face, so on. Whenever something made him upset, I would signal him to write or draw. That worked wonder. He cried less and less, instead, I received many ANGER letters, mostly started with \"Dearest Mummy, I am very very sad because....\" Later by later, you know what, one day, I received a love letter from him.
Now this young man, he writes me love letter regularly, so much MORE often than my DH.
Wish your son be better soon.:celebrate: -
Ran1977:
:goodpost:[/quote]I dun need this anymore but I too think this is a :goodpost:
My DS3 was a crybaby, really bad one. He is P4 now, even now he still has tendency to whine over small matter, though much better.ruohoo97:
[quote=\"Ran1977\"]Hi parents,
I want to as k if you have ever encountered this situation before - my 5yr old son is an extreme crybaby. Tell him can't do this - he cries; can't do that - he cries. for example, can't go playground - he cries; can't eat sweet now - he cries...
It's not enough that he cries, he whines and complains over the littlest things (like just an old grandmother and he is ONLY 5!!!).
Worse if he does a mistake he cries...yesterday he fought with a few friends in the bus and while the aunty bus told me, he ended up crying...even the aunty bus told him \"You made a mistake, why are u crying\"...he said that he knows that mummy will give him a punishment cos of this...
How do any of you parent cope with this. I am a FTWM and am pulling hairs already cos of his attitude...after a hard day's work, it is very stressful taking care of such a kid...Any advice given will be extremely helpful.. :please:
While I was tried to find out why he is so crybaby, I also came across many theories and advises...
But one thing worked for me, NEVER encourage him being a crybaby, some says crybaby is very sensitive so we parents must be sensitive toward them, no, I found if I consoled him once, he would cry more often; I used to tell him that if he wants to get something by using crying, he will never get it. So I just hardened my heart let him CRY till he stopped.
When he was a bit older, in primary school, I realized that sometime he cried because he could not express his feeling well. So I asked him to write it down, or draw a picture. I bought him a beautiful sketch book, and some cute stickers, like sad face, happy face, so on. Whenever something made him upset, I would signal him to write or draw. That worked wonder. He cried less and less, instead, I received many ANGER letters, mostly started with \"Dearest Mummy, I am very very sad because....\" Later by later, you know what, one day, I received a love letter from him.
Now this young man, he writes me love letter regularly, so much MORE often than my DH. Wish your son be better soon.:celebrate: -
ammonite:
They hv eczema and sensitive airway problem and will cough badly when trigerred with certain food and environment conditions, though I must say that we have not really nailed down to what exactly those allergens are.... At one point of time we were thinking of doing allergy testing but did not proceed in the end... We do observe that they will cough badly in dusty and smoky places and have been trying to keep their bedroom as clean as possible including having a air purifier in their room... So far we have been keeping their eczema under control with lots of moisturiser but when it's get too warm they will start to scratch themselves even when they sleep. ...ya really not easy to find the correct balance in the environment to suit their needs....Sean wife, your daughters have eczema and sinitus as well? And dustmite allergy? It is a bit of a bind actually. My son is the same and it took us a while to find the right environmental balance for him.
The aircon-sinus link depends on the individual trigger. For those whose lungs are just sensitive to dry air, or has only mold allergy, it is relatively easy to get a handle on. For those with sensitive airway and eczema with dustmite/heat trigger, it is a bit more complicated because the easiest environmental controls contradict.
High humidity encourages dustmite and mold population, so I don't actually want to put a bowl of water in the room. I'm not familar with steam cleaning, but i amwary of not being able to dry the insides properly, and still having to vacuum the dustmite debris off since that is what trigger the allergy, not the dustmite per se.
But aircon on its own can aggravate dry skin and sensitive lungs. Heat and sweating also make them scratch.
One doctor's suggestion to me and which I have been following, is to use the aircon only for an hour or so to cool the room down, and then switch to fans for the night. We have floor fans for each of our kids. Dress lightly and powder. On very hot days, if you must, use the aircon during the day time for a while to mitigate the heat. In any case, the skin doctor, allergist, sinseh, all told me no aircon through the night.
But where his sinus is concerned, the best management plan has been a lot of sunshine and running, along with anti dustmite measures. For his eczema, managing the triggers and keeping him cool through quick showers and cool towels help a lot.
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Oic. Dust and smoke itself will irritate most people’s nose and lungs. But if you find that they have a chronic sinus problem even in a normal setting then it may be worth checking to see if they are allergic to dustmite or mold. The cleaning guidelines are quite specific for these and the doctors will advise you according to the severity of your child’s allergy. It is a slightly different ballgame.
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Hi.
I have similar problems. Both me and my hubb has rhinitus and nasal allergy. Me added with sensitive skin which the knuckles on my fingers can get so itchy that my scratching will result into blisters on the skin and the skin will thicken. Seen skin dr, only steroid cream and anti itch med.
Yes moisturising is very important for all these area. I use shea butter very rich ones, pure 100% and apply to these area. I can see the area get less red and itch also subsided. I seldom use the steriod cream as I know it will has adverse effect.
For bath, I use very mild and yet antiseptic wash. Originally I buy from skin clinic. it was so expensive. I realised it was a german product. I can bulk buy in at a lower price. If any mummies are keen to try this. pls PM me.
My kids inherited our trade mark. No2 boy, very easily suseptible to marks on legs. If mosquito bites him, the marks can swell and took a long time to subside. I use the same stellisept to wash him. Use a soft bath sponge and about a 50cents amount of stellisept to wash all his body. It is effective.
As for their nasal allergy, we have to use an anti histamine to control. If not, they get congested nose, coughing non stop at night, as for me, the post nasal drip while I sleep will get me sore throat next day.
This was our finding all these years. Thanks goodness my chronic sore throat is due to nasal allergy … and nothing else. These days, if there is any chronic pain that does not go away have to seek dr checking… -
ruohoo97:
haiyo... So sweet.
My DS3 was a crybaby, really bad one. He is P4 now, even now he still has tendency to whine over small matter, though much better.
While I was tried to find out why he is so crybaby, I also came across many theories and advises...
But one thing worked for me, NEVER encourage him being a crybaby, some says crybaby is very sensitive so we parents must be sensitive toward them, no, I found if I consoled him once, he would cry more often; I used to tell him that if he wants to get something by using crying, he will never get it. So I just hardened my heart let him CRY till he stopped.
When he was a bit older, in primary school, I realized that sometime he cried because he could not express his feeling well. So I asked him to write it down, or draw a picture. I bought him a beautiful sketch book, and some cute stickers, like sad face, happy face, so on. Whenever something made him upset, I would signal him to write or draw. That worked wonder. He cried less and less, instead, I received many ANGER letters, mostly started with \"Dearest Mummy, I am very very sad because....\" Later by later, you know what, one day, I received a love letter from him.
Now this young man, he writes me love letter regularly, so much MORE often than my DH. Wish your son be better soon.:celebrate:
Mine is not a cry baby. He cries of course, but a lot lesser than most kid's at his age, I guessed. Even when when he needed stitches for a laceration, he was not crying (because of the location and his age, the surgeon decided he could not be administered with anesthesia. Only numbing glue was used). So yup, u get the idea when I say \"he's not a cry baby\".
Yours is a very good idea which I would introduce to my child, to give him another channel to express himself. :goodpost: -
Hi,
every babies like something different.Ex:playing,music,http://www.karneval-fasching-kostuem-kostueme.de/kostueme-kinder.html,and other things we can use for babies. -
ruohoo97:
This is so sweet!
My DS3 was a crybaby, really bad one. He is P4 now, even now he still has tendency to whine over small matter, though much better.Ran1977:
Hi parents,
I want to as k if you have ever encountered this situation before - my 5yr old son is an extreme crybaby. Tell him can't do this - he cries; can't do that - he cries. for example, can't go playground - he cries; can't eat sweet now - he cries...
It's not enough that he cries, he whines and complains over the littlest things (like just an old grandmother and he is ONLY 5!!!).
Worse if he does a mistake he cries...yesterday he fought with a few friends in the bus and while the aunty bus told me, he ended up crying...even the aunty bus told him \"You made a mistake, why are u crying\"...he said that he knows that mummy will give him a punishment cos of this...
How do any of you parent cope with this. I am a FTWM and am pulling hairs already cos of his attitude...after a hard day's work, it is very stressful taking care of such a kid...Any advice given will be extremely helpful.. :please:
While I was tried to find out why he is so crybaby, I also came across many theories and advises...
But one thing worked for me, NEVER encourage him being a crybaby, some says crybaby is very sensitive so we parents must be sensitive toward them, no, I found if I consoled him once, he would cry more often; I used to tell him that if he wants to get something by using crying, he will never get it. So I just hardened my heart let him CRY till he stopped.
When he was a bit older, in primary school, I realized that sometime he cried because he could not express his feeling well. So I asked him to write it down, or draw a picture. I bought him a beautiful sketch book, and some cute stickers, like sad face, happy face, so on. Whenever something made him upset, I would signal him to write or draw. That worked wonder. He cried less and less, instead, I received many ANGER letters, mostly started with \"Dearest Mummy, I am very very sad because....\" Later by later, you know what, one day, I received a love letter from him.
Now this young man, he writes me love letter regularly, so much MORE often than my DH. Wish your son be better soon.:celebrate:
My 4+ boy is not a cry baby, but on the occasions when he does cry, my DH and I will encourage him to articulate his feelings and why he cried after he calms down. Personally I feel it's important for kids' emotional growth to be able to express why they feel what they feel.
Thanks for sharing Ruohoo! Yours is another avenue which we can explore with DS to express his feelings.
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