Rio:My boy at 3.5 still \"bully\" me. He refuse to eat vegetable whenever I feed him. Wants to b carried ONLY BY ME when we go out. Whines at me even when I am attending lesson with him. But he doesn't do that to my helper.Riash, Rio...Your kids \"bully\" you because you ALLOW them to climb over your heads. It is to their disadvantage if the parents are too soft with them. This type of pampering is not helpful for their character development. A parenting coach I met today, advised all parents to BE PARENTS, NOT FRIENDS. Exert your authority, even with the cane if necessary. Be approachable when they need to talk. However, you should not be overly friendly that they show no respect towards you.