How do you maintain your relationship with your spouse?
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I think it is very important during a quarrel not to bring each other’s family members into it especially when the quarrel is not about any family members or started by any of them.
For example, don’t say "oh, you are just like your mum, so …", "I don’t know how/what your prents taught you when you were young, that’s why niw you are…","your family so weird, no wonder you can do such things…" .
Just stay focus on the issue and the two of you. Once you bring another person into the quarrel, he will always remember what you said about his family be it parents or siblings. -
12mum:
My mother in law does that. A lot. :roll:I think it is very important during a quarrel not to bring each other's family members into it especially when the quarrel is not about any family members or started by any of them.
For example, don't say \"oh, you are just like your mum, so ......\", \"I don't know how/what your prents taught you when you were young, that's why niw you are.......\",\"your family so weird, no wonder you can do such things....\" .
Just stay focus on the issue and the two of you. Once you bring another person into the quarrel, he will always remember what you said about his family be it parents or siblings.
Even to my sister in law, she could curse a few generations before my sister in law's time. -
buds:
Wow! So old that she knows people from few generations ago? :yikes: Her network so extensive - her DIL's relatives from long ago also know.My mother in law does that. A lot. :roll:
Even to my sister in law, she could curse a few generations before my sister in law's time. -
bb_ mom:
Wow! So old that she knows people from few generations ago? :yikes: Her network so extensive - her DIL's relatives from long ago also know.
That's why! :scared: -
buds:
Either that or she's an immortal? Or V-_-_-_-_-_-_. Or W-_-_-_-_. Either way, be scared. Be very very scared. :scared: :nailbite:bb_ mom:
Wow! So old that she knows people from few generations ago? :yikes: Her network so extensive - her DIL's relatives from long ago also know.
That's why! :scared:
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Take time out to talk…push a trolley together in the supermarket. Eat a bowl of dessert. The feeling is definitely different without the kids around.
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janet_lee88:
Take time out to talk...push a trolley together in the supermarket. Eat a bowl of dessert. The feeling is definitely different without the kids around.
How to find the time especially when the bulk of the time is split between taking care of my child and housework? -
That’s when your support network comes into play.
Get family members / friends / neighbours to help watch over your child for a couple of hours and take some time out. Likewise, do the same for them.
If you don’t have such network, then be proactive and start one now. Never too late. -
We love to spend time with our child and she is quite sticky to us too.
Quality alone time usually happens during breakfast at coffeeshop after we send our child to school -
janet_lee88:
Take time out to talk...push a trolley together in the supermarket. Eat a bowl of dessert.
Going for dessert and coffee with DH.
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