How to turn kids be more sociable?

[mac_t13.02738hotmail.02738com]

My girl just turn 3. She hardly wants to say "hi" or ‘bye’ to others likes classmates or their parents. Is that very common at this age? How to make her more inclined to associate with others? Today at her school sport day, one of her classmate wanted to shake hand with her, she just refused, and the boy so sad and cried. When I scolded her for being rude, she just not convince and liked steam puffing from an engine. Even neighbour she also behaviour the same. I can’t tell whether she is shy or bossy because she is independent, well interact and vocal in school according to her teachers. She is a chatterbox at home. Or could it be she is lack of confident to talks with others. How to encourage her?

[kaydenbrown]

My nephew used to be like that too when he was about 4 and I found out that it was because he was really shy and did not like to interact with others because he was afraid of offending others. More like a fear of looking bad and you are right, lacking confidence can be a reason.


What we did was to do it one step at a time. His parents and relatives had to coax him to open himself up more and it starts at home! Just interact with him/her more, including using touch like hugging, shaking hands etc…

And kids are 3 will hardly be bossy or aloof.

[mumma_bear]

My DS is almost 3, but I’m surprised at how friendly he is. Smiling at anyone he likes, even if he isn’t exposed to lots of kids close to his age. Although it’s normal for kids this age to be bossy, he also tends to shy out at times, but mostly he’s really outgoing…I think every kid has a different personality, she’s sure to come out of her shell as soon as she’s comfortable being with her classmates and friends. She’ll learn, it’s just a stage!

[shirley.020816tamzil]

My DS1 used to be very introvert and shy when he is young. Refused to talk to anyone, go near anyone (even friends and families that we know very well and meet regularly). If DS1 sees his kindy classmates or teachers outside school, he will 'pretend' not knowing them and ignore them. :shock:


I remembered asking my sister (whom we sees very regularly) to pick him up from school when he was 4yo. He refused to leave the school with her, his teacher even doubted whether my sister is 'real auntie'! :stupid: My family members have even made a joke that they would strike 4D if anyone managed to get a hug or get to carry him. Initially I was quite worried and concern about him surviving in the primary school.
So I made extra effort to bring him out more often with friends/families/extended families, interact more with his teachers and classmates, be very active in school events/happenings, etc

Glad to say, now DS1 is already 9 (next year P4), he has improved alot on his social skills, especially when he started primary school. He has lots of friends that he plays with and talks to, a few friends that he interact with over phone/FB. :celebrate:

I think every child has their own personalities, have to give them more exposure and encouragement to open up and they will eventually do so when they matures...

[kingster]

my son is also 3 this year. and whenever a kid or someone tries to play with him, he will run to us and stay away from the kid. not sure how to get him to play with them. he is soooooooooooooo reluctant in doing so… hope he gets better when he starts his nursery…

[jkids]

hi all


sorry for the late reply.

my kids are better after i sent them to child care centre few mths ago. they initially attended 1.5-3h lessons.

think letting them mix with diff age group helps as they see and play wif one another everyday. they used to not want to play at the public playground if there are other kids around, but now, they are fine to play at the playground wif others around.

[kiasu_pig]

DS1 is coming to 4 and has been attending preschool for 2 years (now in N1). DS1 always act so shy in front of me and my spouse when we went to pick or drop him at school. However, his teachers (more than 1) always told us that DS1 is very sociable in class, having made friends in other classes, from toddler class, to N2 and even K1 and K2. These kids knew him and always waved or greeting him whenever we went to drop or pick him up. So we are puzzled and don't know whether we should doubt the teachers' words or to trust our own observations? I guess, sometimes, kids are such shy in front of his own parents for fear of getting scolded ...

:celebrate:

Last week DS1's school had a graduation concert and he participated in two skits. We were very surprised that he was so active and was able to dance and run around to the music! And maintaining contact with the audience! And we realised that that's only when he didn't see us (we were in the audience and the lights were quite dim)

But still, like this morning, brought him to school, and he began his shy-shy pattern again. Haiz.

[jedamum]

our kids not sociable, we are concerned.

our kids too sociable, we are also concerned. my 4yo talks to anyone who shares the same lift as us; telling them that he stays at which floor or where he is going. :faint:

[Chenonceau]

jedamum… lol


I have one who could talk so much a stone would get up to get away from her. I have another who at 7 years old explained patiently "I didn’t say anything because everyone has said what needs to be said."

It’s personality trait… no need worry too much. Nothing wrong with kid. Just like some are left and some are right handed. Both also ok lah…

[sparkie0209]

Hi there, any tips to share on how to get a 2yo to look at the person whom she is speaking to? Thanks.