Which is better, same-sex or mixed school?

[joopjoop]

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I am having a debate with my hubby who would like our son to be in an all boys school. What are the pros and cons of this?

[maisy]

mathsparks:

I don't think it matters much in Primary school. But in secondary school, single sex schools consistently show better results..less distractions..more opportunities for the girls to be vocal/leaders..etc.

I AGREE.

I have no daughter but if i had, and u ask me to choose...for Primary school i would prefer to put her in a co-education school (more so for the diversity & exposure...ie they will likely be less curious abt the opposite sex since they are in the company most of the time & they also get to understand the opposite sex is just another human being - no major difference; no big deal) Of cos this is provided the co-ed primary school of choice is easy to get in .... if i have to PV or queue overnight, then i might hv to reconsider my other options.

As for Secondary School , I will then move her to an all-girls' school... I am unsure if an all-girls school consistently produce better results as I have no statistics to show ...but i m certain that the girls learn to be more VOCAL in an all-girls environment and it also gives them the platform to lead (think: there are no boys out there ... hence certain tasks will still have to be done by the girls...eg if they attend a camp, who will help them set up the tent & camp fire - the girls themselves ... during assembly , who shouts out the command? the girls themselves again... etc etc)

I come from an all-girls school myself (only in Secondary) and I must say I became a more vocal & confident individual.

As for boys ? haha... this is now my challenge ... i am all for co-education for Primary level ...but becos of the area i stay, the better co-ed schools are very difficult to get in..... hence i'll most likely put my son in a nearby all-boys' school which happens to be his daddy's alma mater ...of cos my husband is \"all for it\" .. :roll: hahaha

[MumandMe]

caroline3sg:

Hi

I was from all girls' sch right up till sec sch. Now my girl in all girls' pri sch. I also intend to go for all girls' sec sch, if her result can.

Not only physically & academically considerations, but also emotionally as well. My husband told my girl not to have boyfriends when in sec sch. You can see a lot of sec sch kids couple couple nowadays. And what would happen if both parents are working, not at home?

Actually even in all girls school, the girls may have boyfriends outside too. Plus, what if the \"boyfriend\" is actually another girl at the same school?

Which is better? To have a normal male as a boyfriend, or to have a female as a boyfriend. I know this is a choice of chooising one bad egg from another.

[MumandMe]

headachemum:

Haha..think for me, a good mixed pri sch is the best cos next time when your kid grow up n married...they'll have kids right? So can you or anyone guranteed that your grandkids are going to be the same sex as your kid?? Like me, I'm having headache liao cos I was from RGPS but I can't possibly send my son to RGPS right??? now have to crack my head..darn.

Hey, this is very sensible and far-sighted thinking. I like!

[MumandMe]

kiasiparent:

Given the current sexual climate, i think its more safe to send girls to girls' school.

I was reading from page ! and just came to your post. Dunno whether to agree or disagree with you. There are too many lesbians around these days. I wonder if the reason is because the girls lack contact with boys? Although purely from the biological point of view, being with another girl poses less serious consequences than being with a boy.

[mummyo]

Just my 2 cents worth.


I will NEVER send my kids to a single sex school.

I was from co-ed in Primary and then all girls’ school in Sec. It’s very unhealthy to be in an all girls environment. When we need to experiment (sexually), often only have girls so as a result, many lesbians in my school.

On the other hand, due to lack of contact with guys, I feel a barrier with the opposite sex after I left Sec school.

Finally I got the hang of boys and can’t get enough of them and must say I was quite promicuous in my poly and uni days.

So I also agree that shielding is not the way to go but more of exposure and guiding them.

[Ririan]

my personal opinion: co-ed primary school but single sex secondary school.

[Ririan]

my personal opinion: co-ed primary school but single sex secondary school.

[Willow]

joopjoop,

same…I would put my boys in a co-ed primary school but single sex secondary school…i honestly think boys tend to study better following the good example set by girls…i will worry that he get ‘bullied’ in an all boys school too…some boys are way too rough…

[jtoh]

For girls, I would say an all-girl primary school. Because boys tend to be noisier and pay less attention during class during primary school, which would be distracting for girls who are trying to focus. The teachers would also be spending time telling the class to be quiet instead of teaching.


At secondary school, I don’t mind a co-ed environment but would prefer a single-sex environment to lessen the chances of dating distractions. Also, single-sex schools tend to perform better academically.