Which is better, same-sex or mixed school?

[mrswongtuition]

mum2gabnmimi:

I always think that its the boys that are more distracted in sec schools compared to girls!

Both are equally distracted.

BTW, being a girls' schools does not mean they do not have male friends. I grew up in the a 'nunnery' for 10 years but had numerous Bfs during my sec sch time.

However, sometimes BGR can turn out to be good if the partner is studious & they encourage each other to study (like how my hb encouraged me to study & I did well during 'O' levels & at poly :)). My hb (at tt time was BF) was my library/research companion, help me find more books, help me photocopy books while I read other books for info, help me carry books, return the books back to the shelves, buy drink/snack for me when I'm busy studying/revising, help me go to Popular to buy things I need so I don't waste time travelling or going out, go out to buy whatever food I'm craving for. He made my studying environment very conducive & encouraged me alot when I was so stressed up with project/studying. Sometimes very 'suay' things can happen like printer spoil when I urgently need to print project! He'll rush out to either borrow from friend or buy a new one (depending on the problem).

My niece got into bad company in S1 and was almost expelled from school. We had to beg the principal to let her stay on but she drop to NA from Exp. Then she met a boy outside school who encouraged her to work hard and be good. Their dating session is at home with parents/grandparents supervision, either play computer games or watch DVD or study together, sometimes they cook together for the family. My niece changed for the better and she was promoted back to Exp this year

It's not that BGR is bad, it's a matter of meeting the 'right one' and teaching our kids to cope with rejection or failure in relationships. Shielding them will make them more 'vulnerable' when they grow older. You know why so many people commit/attempt suicide or go to extremes when their relationships fail? Because they were too sheltered & do not know how to cope with rejection or failure. We should teach our kids to be resilient, not shield them though we as parents do not want our precious babies to be hurt.

Btw, I'm a mother, so I know how much we would love to shield our kids from any form of harm. But we need to learn to let them fall & learn from their mistakes at times.

[doraemo]

A girls’ school can help your daughter be all she can be simply by encouraging and nurturing her. Everything is possible. Nothing is off limits.

[mathsparks]

I don’t think it matters much in Primary school. But in secondary school, single sex schools consistently show better results…less distractions…more opportunities for the girls to be vocal/leaders…etc.

[joopjoop]

[Moderator's note: Topics merged.]


I am having a debate with my hubby who would like our son to be in an all boys school. What are the pros and cons of this?

[maisy]

mathsparks:

I don't think it matters much in Primary school. But in secondary school, single sex schools consistently show better results..less distractions..more opportunities for the girls to be vocal/leaders..etc.

I AGREE.

I have no daughter but if i had, and u ask me to choose...for Primary school i would prefer to put her in a co-education school (more so for the diversity & exposure...ie they will likely be less curious abt the opposite sex since they are in the company most of the time & they also get to understand the opposite sex is just another human being - no major difference; no big deal) Of cos this is provided the co-ed primary school of choice is easy to get in .... if i have to PV or queue overnight, then i might hv to reconsider my other options.

As for Secondary School , I will then move her to an all-girls' school... I am unsure if an all-girls school consistently produce better results as I have no statistics to show ...but i m certain that the girls learn to be more VOCAL in an all-girls environment and it also gives them the platform to lead (think: there are no boys out there ... hence certain tasks will still have to be done by the girls...eg if they attend a camp, who will help them set up the tent & camp fire - the girls themselves ... during assembly , who shouts out the command? the girls themselves again... etc etc)

I come from an all-girls school myself (only in Secondary) and I must say I became a more vocal & confident individual.

As for boys ? haha... this is now my challenge ... i am all for co-education for Primary level ...but becos of the area i stay, the better co-ed schools are very difficult to get in..... hence i'll most likely put my son in a nearby all-boys' school which happens to be his daddy's alma mater ...of cos my husband is \"all for it\" .. :roll: hahaha

[MumandMe]

caroline3sg:

Hi

I was from all girls' sch right up till sec sch. Now my girl in all girls' pri sch. I also intend to go for all girls' sec sch, if her result can.

Not only physically & academically considerations, but also emotionally as well. My husband told my girl not to have boyfriends when in sec sch. You can see a lot of sec sch kids couple couple nowadays. And what would happen if both parents are working, not at home?

Actually even in all girls school, the girls may have boyfriends outside too. Plus, what if the \"boyfriend\" is actually another girl at the same school?

Which is better? To have a normal male as a boyfriend, or to have a female as a boyfriend. I know this is a choice of chooising one bad egg from another.

[MumandMe]

headachemum:

Haha..think for me, a good mixed pri sch is the best cos next time when your kid grow up n married...they'll have kids right? So can you or anyone guranteed that your grandkids are going to be the same sex as your kid?? Like me, I'm having headache liao cos I was from RGPS but I can't possibly send my son to RGPS right??? now have to crack my head..darn.

Hey, this is very sensible and far-sighted thinking. I like!

[MumandMe]

kiasiparent:

Given the current sexual climate, i think its more safe to send girls to girls' school.

I was reading from page ! and just came to your post. Dunno whether to agree or disagree with you. There are too many lesbians around these days. I wonder if the reason is because the girls lack contact with boys? Although purely from the biological point of view, being with another girl poses less serious consequences than being with a boy.

[mummyo]

Just my 2 cents worth.


I will NEVER send my kids to a single sex school.

I was from co-ed in Primary and then all girls’ school in Sec. It’s very unhealthy to be in an all girls environment. When we need to experiment (sexually), often only have girls so as a result, many lesbians in my school.

On the other hand, due to lack of contact with guys, I feel a barrier with the opposite sex after I left Sec school.

Finally I got the hang of boys and can’t get enough of them and must say I was quite promicuous in my poly and uni days.

So I also agree that shielding is not the way to go but more of exposure and guiding them.

[Ririan]

my personal opinion: co-ed primary school but single sex secondary school.