Is this behaviour of teacher acceptable?

[adoreachild]

Not acceptable at all. At school children are the responsibility of teachers. Parents send their children to school believing on teachers that they will take care of their children. He can scold him or can advice him to be attentive in class but he should not behave like this. You should take some action against him. Because for parents their child safety is most important.


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[friendship]

It is OK with me.

First, have you access what was the class situation at that time?
Are you sure your child is not a trouble maker or creating nuisance in the class? for example: walking/running around in the class when the teacher is teaching, disturbing the classmates, given warning many times and chose to ignore.
Are you listening only one - sided story? Nowadays kids like to twist the story.
Perhaps you want to gather evidence from the classmates. Classmates will tell the truth not your child.

If knowing the child can’t fit into mainstream school, why don’t you choose a school that fit his learning abilities?

[cherrygal]

Is his teacher the old matronly type? She prob belongs to the old school of thought that pulling ears, poke head etc is acceptable. Most new teachers know they cannot touch the kid.


You have to talk to her if you don’t like what she’s doing. Be tactful though.

[Imp75]

I wonder why physical punishment could be tolerated in the olden days but not now? Does it really hurt the child’s esteem and cause irreparable damage or is it parents are more protective now?

[weatherbee]

Not acceptable. But I will find out the details of what exactly happened. Sometimes, kids are really too naughty.

[J and J]

Not acceptable for any physical contact punishment like pulling ear at all time.

[Beansprout]

Not acceptable! Your child is just a kid while the teacher is an adult. The teacher should not resort to violence especially when she knows your kid has attention span problem and already seeking guidance and getting treatment. Complain to principal so that she will not do to other kids.

[cherrygal]

Imp75:

I wonder why physical punishment could be tolerated in the olden days but not now? Does it really hurt the child's esteem and cause irreparable damage or is it parents are more protective now?

Because parents were not so vocal and highly educated last time so they respected the teachers very much and some even ask the teacher to help to spank the kids. My tuition teacher used to cane our hands if we failed her tingxie... and she was sooooo popular among the parents.

Guess we can be over protective sometimes but our fear is, if we don't make noise now, will she go further and whack him more?

[mommylow]

In my opinion, teachers no matter how angry they are should not resort to physical violence to discipline a student. Being adults they should be able to regulate their emotions better


I must admit sometimes it’s really exasperating when dealing with certain children who simply do not take well to instructions and co-operate. They just drive the teacher up the wall and she/he succumbs to physical and sometimes verbal attacks. My DS’s classmates can drive his teacher to say words like "I’ve given up on you" or "I don’t even want to look at your report book".

I think parents should work hand in hand with the teacher and when meltdowns happen, find out the true cause to it from both sides. Listen carefully to what the child has to say and whether he is saying the truth as kids sometimes twist the story to their advantage to avoid scoldings and punishment. Interviewing the classmates who witness the whole incident can really help us look at the issue from a different perspective.

If the teacher is really at fault, we should not have any qualms about letting him/her know and settle the issue diplomatically.

Since we entrust our children to the school and teachers, we should work hand in hand with them and have faith that they will do their best to teach, nurture and guide our children in their learning journey.

[Imami]

Agree with Mommylow.


Now, I am not against smacking, pulling ears per se. I believe some smacking is necessary for the good of my child and I subscribe to the idea "spare the rod and spoil the kid". What I cannot accept is another person, especially a teacher, pulling my child’s ear. I believe, I am in the best position to roll out physical punishment to my child without hurting his esteem and his flesh. Another person may not be able to manage this aspect of the punishment. The outcome we want from the said punishment is not to hurt/shame the child, but to guide him/her to the correct path. What good does it do to throw the book on the floor? It only shows the child teacher is very very very angry. But does it explain to the child what is the teacher angry with?

I can accept the teacher to inform, complain about my child to me. Tell me how naughty/uncooperative/un-manageable my child is, I will deal with him in my own way. BUT don’t lay a finger on my child.