I have received the reporting day package email attachment earlier today, in the evening. The snail mail should probably arrive tomorrow or day after.

While I agree that good results may not necessarily translate to a good future, since attitude, passion, EQ, luck, hard work etc all play a part... getting good results now in school is needed so that my kid can have the choice to pursue the path she wants.


No point in my kid declaring that she only wants to be a doctor if she doesn't have the grades to make it into medical school.

hi limboonlee


I've checked with my P1 girl and it didn't seem that this \"giving gifts\" is prevalent in her class.

DD received a keychain from a classmate who bought it from the bookshop in the 2nd week of term 1. (that cost $1.50, more than DD's daily allowance!) We explained to DD that we viewed this as too expensive a gift and requested that she returned it, which she did.

If you're concerned, you should bring this up with the form teacher. The teacher's words carry a lot of weight with my DD. :roll:

rgds

Take heart, fussyMummy

I do applaud your courage in moving out of a bad situation. I deeply believe that you are showing your children what it means to be strong and independent.

@jedamum, about not labelling the child ‘shy’, we would just say that DD1 will respond when she is ready to. But can’t prevent others from dangling the label ‘shy’ on her.


@Funz, yes I had read about selective mutism before. The school counsellor (and the Child Guidance counsellor DD1 saw in K2) were quite certain that DD1 doesn’t have that… yet. The school counsellor is still concerned and hope that DD1 doesn’t regress into SM.
We did set expectations that DD1 should respond (either verbally or non-verbally) when spoken to, and she has been involved in a CCA of her choice in P1 and P2. Maybe we should ease up a little on that after reading this article…

@Trina, DD1 didn’t have show & tell sessions in lower P. DD2, however, has done one show & tell this year in P1 and even has marks to show for that. I had broached the idea of Speech & Drama holiday program to DD1 but she didn’t like it even in childcare (K2) when she had her close friends with her.

Maybe I should go reread some of the books on raising confident kids and see if i’ve missed anything…

My DD1 is a (painfully) shy girl in school. When she was in P1, on the first day of school when every girl was asked to stand up and give a short introduction, she froze and cried. That year, her form teacher was concerned that DD1 was not speaking up in class, and the school counsellor was involved too. DD1 did manage to pass her oral tests but I was told that her voice was very soft and she had tears in her eyes when answering questions and was forcing the words out of her mouth.


Nothing much has changed, unfortunately, 2 years down the road. DD1 is now in P3. Her form teacher had asked each girl to stand up and tell her whether taking HCL or CL. She cried. :stupid: In class, when DD1 is called to answer questions, DD1's classmates would protest to the teachers that DD1 cannot stand up and answer questions. I don't think that this is healthy for DD1.

We (teachers and parents) have been giving her encouragement and time to grow out of this. But it seems like we are running out of time. DD1 has to start speaking up else it'll be even more difficult when it comes to project work and team discussions later...

What else could I do to help her? :?:

Thanks all for the warm welcomes!

New and staying in Hillview. Mommy of girl (2001), girl (2003), boy (2005). Been reading posts and decided to take the plunge. So here i am…


Hope to learn more from the parents here!

New and staying in Hillview. Mommy of girl (2001), girl (2003), boy (2005). Been reading posts and decided to take the plunge. So here i am…