dear mums,thank you for all the encouragement and advice.i thought things picked up in term 2 esp during the holidays. we spread out the school homework in the mornings and had plenty of fun in the afternoons. unfortunately, things changed very quickly in term 3. the helper was repatriated suddenly (after much drama) and i was managing household chores and kids. unfortunately, my temper became very bad. the girl received many "pay attention!! please see me!!" from teacher (mainly due to carelessness or did not pay attention) and increasingly she became: 1) even more defiant and challenges me all the time2) started showing "attitude" ie eye rolling and long cold stares with long slow blinks3) telling lies4) keeps telling me "Don’t be rude!" - I am giving her instructions firmly.i try persuasion and reasoning - Doesn’t work. i tolerate/ ignore her taunting, tell her to stop…but she goes on and on and on. until i explode and cane her (instead of discipline… it is full blown anger). i feel helpless. she is reached new limits of SLOOOOW…